(46F) About 3 years ago my husband started his own company and in the first year was making more than both of us were combined previously, and this past year he made about 3.5xs what I make (130k) - surprising us both. We are in a MCOL area, with a 12 year old and 5 year old in public school, and we live fairly frugally and have a sound retirement nest egg. No debt except about $100k left on the mortgage; 15 year old cars. I've been at my job for almost 9 years so I've pretty much mastered it, and it's still interesting in spells, but I'm not all that motivated by it anymore and there's nowhere to move up. However, it is in a public utility so its' very safe w/o much stress and great benefits and time off. I generally like the people I work with, but there's a 40 minute driving commute each way.
Part of our dream when my husband started his company was that we would design our lives so we could be away during the summers - like live someplace else for a month or 2 (not possible with my current job). I don't want to retire yet, but have more space to explore other things, including working PT for my husband's company learning how to utilize AI. Now we're there, with a (still refundable) trip planned for this summer. We've talked with a financial advisor numerous times and he's said we are safe for me to quit (though it will mean my husband's company getting its own healthcare plan, dinging the profits a little bit). My husband and his business partner are confident about the year ahead, and their relationship and my marriage is very solid.
But here I am, freaking out - I am terrified to give my notice. What if my husband's company tanks? What if I end up regretting leaving my cushy though far-away job? What if I don't end up finding anything else in life and it was all for naught? I am very good at avoidance and it just hasn't felt real until now, when I need to give my notice soon - and I'm flailing, which also makes me feel guilty since not everyone gets a chance in life like this. Can anyone relate?