AITAH for telling my ex-Husband wife that she picked him?
It’s absolutely ridiculous that I have to go through this after many years of healing, and trying to get away from this drama.
Apologies for any grammar mistakes!
Op(35f) mina(24f) dan(37m)
I will give a backstory just to put things in place. So my ex-husband, Danial and I have been divorced for 3 years now. We do share 3 daughters together, we don’t have a great co-parenting relationship. We have a court agreement where he gets the kids for the weekend, but he stopped seeing them.
I won’t be that mother that begs a man to be father or set my kids up to disappointment each time.
Anyway, for the real problem. Dan and I divorced because of his infidelity with another woman, call her Mina, they had a child together. When it happened I wasn’t going to blame the woman but I did because she knew, she made herself known. She had no shame, boosted about her child with my ex.
That divorce was NASTY, his girlfriend stood by his side which was funny because what was she fighting for? He had to pay child support, I was glad I was taking something out of him.
Time skip, like I said co-parenting didn’t work out because one parent wasn’t putting the effort in. I also didn’t want my kids over his house because my kids told me him and Mina would fight, he would verbally say stuff to her. Another case, the police had to be called because he did you know what.
They are still together and married, they have 4 kids. This situation happened last year, I don’t speak to my daughter’s father. They barely ask for him, we’ve been living in peace. Just putting more effort into raising my girls with no help.
So I have Facebook, and I’ve been seeing Mina page pop up under” people you may know” I don’t know why but I ignored it. Days after, I went on Facebook and checked my messages. Surprise, I had a request message. She said a lot so I’m breaking it up.
“ you probably don’t want to speak to me but I really need your help, and speak to you” she was right, what was there to speak about? My fault for feeding into it, I asked her what was it about, she said it was about Dan. I immediately stopped responding.
I assumed she stopped responding too but hours later, I went back on the app and seen that she sent 5 messages.
She started venting about how miserable she is, Dan is mean to her, always talks to other women, disappears. Has to take care of the kids on her own. All I could tell her that she picked her life, that it has nothing to do with me anymore so I don’t know what she wants me to do. Maybe I was too cold.