u/ComfortableKangaroo5

My bf and I met early in college and moved in together very early into our relationship (9 months or so), things were great for a long time, I felt like I had a best friend and never instantly clicked with someone so much. But this year has been incredibly hard for the both of us. College is heating up as we are preparing to close out our degrees, his parents are divorcing (long time coming), one of my best friends took his life earlier in the year, and my bf can barely afford rent.
Despite my individual hardships, I am trying so hard to keep growing and keep my grasp on life. I go outside, I love my studies, I’m making friends and volunteering weekly. I’m still stressed and in a lot of emotional pain, but I’m really trying to keep myself on a good track.
My bf on the other hand is sort of collapsing in on himself under the pressure. He is evidently and understandable depressed, all he does is work, school and sleep. He doesn’t have a lot of friends that arent mutual so he doesn’t go out or hang out with anyone if I’m not there, leading to resentment when I go out to dinner with my girlfriends or do something without him.
We’ve gotten in a lot of arguments over the past few months, mostly about him slacking on taking care of the house, or him being upset that I’m not spending enough time with him, both of which we are working to mitigate.
But honestly no matter how many talks we have I feel like there is too much pressure on me as the only things going somewhat well in his life and only social support to keep him happy. If he upsets me, I can find other avenues of joy until I’m ready to talk about it, but if he’s upset with me it feels like his whole world is in crisis. It just feels like too much, I love him, and I know his life is hard right now, but I miss being more independent and not so tied up in another person. Its not intentional but he’s dragging us both down with him.