u/Comfortable_Club_180

No matter what I did, distractions never worked.

My default action with urges is to sit with the urge until it goes away. Do not act on it. *Feel* the urge. Identify it.

Urges move like this:

Have a trigger —> urge gets more intense —> urge reaches peak —> urge fades away.

Be aware of this process. Ride the feeling like a wave.

This method is called **urge surfing**.

Show the urge you are unaffected by it. Do not reward the urge. Sooner or later the urges will will have no reason to show up looking for satisfaction.

Learning this was like discovering a cheat code.

Towards the end of my 21 years of addiction I was sadly spending 3-5 hours daily watching porn.

This method changed my life