r/QuitPornForever

I just came back from the gym and i got a testo spike, urges are coming pls help

Even after telling my best friend, I constantly relapse. Even after telling my sister, I relapse. Even in the room with other people, including my mom, I relapse. I relapsed FOUR TIMES JUST TODAY. I'm seriously thinking of just giving up. I've had this addiction for maybe ~3 years, but since I was maybe 8 years old, I've used my own version (a kink I guess it could be called) until I found porn. It's gotten out of hand, I rarely try, and I watch things I used to find absolutely disgusting and still do. I've tried holding myself accountable, 3 different apps, distraction... I don't know what else to do

I keep falling into lust.

I am under 18, started porn a couple years ago, only my mom knows, but she thinks I quit. I can't bear to tell her the truth that I'm still struggling. The most I've made it without porn is maybe a week? I can't even recall. I hate it so much and I want to return to Jesus. My mom is christian and so am I, and I want to quit porn before I get baptized. Ive tried the methods people recommended, asking God to take the lust away, using app blockers, nothing works reliably.

I want so badly to quit but im entirely lost on where to start, so if any of you can help, please do 🙏

I just can't seem to end the cycle

My (ex) boyfriend (23M) is clearly suffering from porn addiction at the point where he sexualizes every woman he sees and it has ruined my trust for him and even my self-esteem. Recently I discovered he has made an AI generated porn photo of a friend of mine by using one of her Instagram photos. This was extremely disgusting and hurtfuland even criminal.

Now I want to know if there is any way he can recover from this ? And why has he gotten to this point ?

I’m helping my boyfriend quit porn but I get worried he will relapse. It’s been two weeks since we started his journey with the help of therapy. He’s been watching all sorts of porn, straight, gay, solos men and women. But he said he is straight, he started watching gay stuff when one girlfriend of his sometime back introduced it to him and it grew on him. For the porn addicts did you used to watch all sorts of porn?

Has anyone tried this? So basically I've been trying to quit for months going cold turkey. Relapse after relapse, I'm tired of this. I was wondering would it become easier if I quit porn but continued to masturbate without any visual stimulation or thoughts and then started to gradually lower my masturbation frequency all the way to the point when I'd completely stop?

So I'm 13 M i started watching through curiousity i had been watching for a month and now ive quit its been a week since i quit . I am wondering will i have any physical problems since i watched porn for like a month

My addiction has gotten to the point i am beating to Roblox and it's literally effecting how I act online lol

I need help and what do I tell my psychiatrist when we have our first meeting

curious if anyone else experienced this after trying to stop watching porn……once you step back from it, do you start noticing how much sexual content is pushed everywhere online?

not blaming anyone individually, just wondering whether part of quitting is also having to change what you consume on social media too

I'll try to make this short enough so that people dont skip it 😬

I think we focus a lot on the wrong stuff when trying to quit porn. I’ve noticed that in most recovery subs, a lot of the advice given is about the wrong layer of the problem (or at least, not the most important one) Especially when it comes to blockers, day counters, what apps to install, cold showers, or stuff like "what to do when urges hit at 2am".

im not saying all of this is useless but it’s very surface level... You could check your day count, have your blockers on, get hit by an urge, take a cold shower, and still find a workaround for the blocker, and relapse.

We dont think about this much but it's very clear what’s happening in our brains. Porn really isn’t something we need. It feels like it because of the dopamine, that’s most of it (yeah everyone knows about dopamine obviously, but it's another thing to actually internalize it, and understand that.. that's basically all it is).

The brain knows it can get a massive hit in just a few clicks, bigger than anything else in your day 🤷‍♂️ And that is it. Chemistry doing what chemistry does. And IMO when you know this and read about it, the urges become a lot less scary and you understand that it’s not like a deep truth about yourself. It’s very mechanical and explainable...

Same with the urges. Lots of advice about fighting them out there, distracting yourself, and white-knuckling. But they’re just feelings, and feelings pass if you let them (like, they 100% pass..). And so we try to resist harder all the time, but what we should be able to do is sit there, feel the discomfort and breathe. Theres really no need to escape it.. urges have much less grip if you dont.

And then blockers and trackers are really just optional. Nice added friction for sure, but not doing 80% of the job like many seem to believe.

Im not saying it's all super simple and that we should not also ask ourselves why we’re reaching for it in the first place. Like boredom, loneliness, stress, trauma, etc. Sometimes we’re really trying to avoid feeling something. It doesn’t always look like that but it’s the case many times. We skip that thing and go straight to porn because it’s uncomfortable. like focusing on treating the symptoms, basically.

This is not a lesson or a list of advice, but I think it's important to understand the chemistry and learn how to feel towards urges.

I’m 20 days clean of no porn and no fap I been addicted to porn since I was 12 so my mind was always clouded with brain fog I thought it was normal until now.

My mind is clearing daily I workout more daily my eye contact is way better and also my focus is better.

I’m not really doing this for any benefits I’m doing this to better myself as a person as a man sometimes I sit back and think what I put my exes through just because I couldn’t stop no fap and porn.

I be wanting to reach out but what’s done is done I just have to continue to better myself and focus on my journey and become a better person but hey looking to reach 30 days and I just want to say it’s not really nothing a doctor can do I been prescribed cialis I been to a lot of urologists trust me it works but will work better or you won’t need them if you stop touching your dick .

I know what leads to it the stress, depression,hard times I know it’s not easy remind you I was addicted since I was 12 so I know all the symptoms that comes with watching porn for years so I hope & pray you all make it through the storm and come out better

I FINALLY LEFT ALL THE PORN CHANNELS I WAS IN ON THIS DAMN APP….HOLY FUCK :3

I haven’t quite plucked up the courage to delete my saved stuff but Still A WIN IS A WIN NO MATTER THE FORM :3

You might be seeing this post after relapsing again for the 657th time. Or maybe you're on a great streak and you're really happy about it. One of the biggest if not the biggest problem with the quitting journey is counting the days. You may be asking, "what's so bad about that?" Well, a lot, actually. By counting the days, you are subconsciously affirming to yourself that you are a fapper- you might as well be counting down the days until you do it again. Counting the days keeps the addiction in your mind, even though that's the opposite intention of counting. Streak apps like No Relapse and No Fap are elaborate schemes that make you think that you're quitting when they're really just reinforcing the day-counting idea and everything coming with it. Changing your mindset is key to success in quitting porn or masturbation. The best way to accomplish this is, whenever you want to think about your day count, change your thinking process to "I just don't do it anymore." Eventually, your brain will start to believe it.

Write your real reasons for changing. Read them when things get hard.

My reasons:

You must win

Stop watching pussy, it will make your future girl insecure

Tomorrow you will be disappointed of what you did today

You did it before? That guy before doesn't exist

The best thing you can do now is never gonna be goon

God made you read these for a reason

If I could exist with the current you, I'd make sure I never let you fall into that stuff

How do you expect to move forward if you're trying to drag your past self with you there?

Like idk what is going on im not even horny at all but I want to jerk off so fucking bad. I’m not going to relapse but has anyone else experienced this? Is my brain telling me to jerk off bc it’s so used to jerking off every day? I never imagined this would be so hard :/

It's almost 5 days and it's harder to control. I go through nude pic and everything but not touching my dick.

Anyone any advice😓