My story
My husband and I were together for 14 years and married for 10. We have three young children and recently welcomed our fourth baby. Last summer, while I was pregnant, he began a long-distance affair with another woman. They met in June, started an emotional relationship in July, and became physical in August. She lives in another country. Since then, he has moved out and is living with his parents. He travels to be with her every 2-3 weeks.
What makes this even harder is that he has repeatedly lied about money and avoided his responsibilities. He stopped contributing consistently to our household expenses because of new business venture since before he met her, including the mortgage, childcare, tuition, and other costs related to the children. He makes promises to help financially and then breaks them. At the same time, he has rewritten the story to justify his behavior and avoid accountability and im the one to blame ofc.
I filed for divorce because I needed to protect myself and our children. I am now rebuilding my life as a single mother of four, while dealing with the emotional fallout of betrayal and the financial instability he created. I still struggle to understand how someone can abandon their family during such a vulnerable time and continue living in a fantasy while the real-life consequences fall on the spouse and children left behind.
I am posting to hear from others who have gone through infidelity, financial deception, and separation with young children. How long did it take for your spouse to face reality? Did they ever take responsibility? And how did you move forward and rebuild your life?
Before I used to go to sleep praying i didn’t wake up. Now i fall asleep praying for him to get what deserves. He says they are not together anymore but I have found a lot of evidence that they are and they are planning to live together in the same city we live.