AITA for feeling hurt?
I[26f] and wife [27] have recently been going through a lot. We had a baby 8 months ago. About 7 months ago, I had an emotional affair with a coworker. Something I know I fucked up on and trying to fix. Wife knows about it and we are trying to work out. She has obviously been going through all the emotions she needs to to be able to heal, and I have been trying to do everything I can to help. I have cut out the person in my life. I am even switch jobs to also help her with knowing I wont be around the person anymore. In the process she asked why it happened. I told her it was a connection I havent felt with someone since her and I have been together. I know that is no excuse for what I did and I deeply regret it. It went on for a week before my wife found out. When I told her the connection aspect, she had told me that she has had a connection with someone and never acted on that. Which I completely see her argument. I guess where I am hurt, is that I found out the connection has been with someone for years now. Someone she sees regularly. When I thought our marriage was in a good place, she had this connection the whole time. And I know its not just a friend connection because she has plenty of those, but she only felt the need to tell me about this one specifically. I know I'm the one who took things too far, but I cant help but hurt from the thought of wondering if she has just settled with me all this time, and I am trying to do everything to make things better, while she wont tell me who the person is because they are friends and one of her regular clients. Her argument is that she knows to keep things professional, which i trust her in that, but Im just worried she is settling with me because we are married with a kid, and one day she will wake up and regret us. Am I wrong for feeling hurt still?