engagement party, but no wedding?
Hi all! I’m brainstorming and wanted to hear thoughts & seek advice. I personally do not think I want to have a wedding for a variety of different reasons that are honestly a little hard for me to articulate? For some reason the thought of having one just makes me very uncomfy (pls don’t judge). A few reasons: I just don’t want the whole big thing. I don’t want to spend the money. I don’t want gifts from people. I don’t want to have pressure put on bridesmaids, I don’t want to think about a party for a year, etc. I’d kinda like my fiancé and I to just go do our own thing at a courthouse or elope or something.
However, the only thing I’d miss from a wedding is celebrating my relationship with family and friends, and transparently/selfishly, I still do want at least one day to feel special and have people show up for me in the way I’ve showed up for friends and other people in my life. I kinda love the idea of having an engagement party that’s elegant and fun. We live by the beach so I’d love to book out a nice event space by the water and have food and an open bar & then maybe afterwards party and go out with close friends/whoever wants to join. I understand some people wouldn’t prioritize an engagement party as they would a wedding & that’s okay with me. The people closest to us would know the situation and prioritize being there. Anyway, Is this like rude in any way to do engagement party, with no wedding?
I’m also curious to hear other engagement party experiences/things you did, what format you followed etc. any ideas welcome. Thanks all 😊