r/engaged

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Hey guys!
I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years now and he is wonderful! We have been living together since 3 years, have cats and a really settled, nice life.
We talked about everything that matters and agree on all things.
We have even talked about getting married someday.

Now we will be off for vacation soon and on an our anniversary in a very special place to us. Like a dream spot we always wanted to go and now we are finally going.

So I was like in my mind… hey this would be such a great day and spot to get engaged. Like would make the day even more perfect and meaningful. And then I thought.. okay he is sometimes everywhere with his mind and not so creative that I think he might won’t even get the idea that this could be a potential spot. He is really cute but sometimes his head is elsewhere when it comes to things 😁 (not in the daily life.. he cleans, cooks, takes care of things. It’s not like I am having to take responsiblitlies.). He had only two short relationships before me and used to live alone. So I am really lucky here. But with romance somtimes .. well. He even said if he asked me he would become so nervous he believes he would just let it slip out out of nowhere .. like when we are very close cuddling or whatever when he feels comfy. (Have to note here, i don’t wanna have a ring. I am not a ring girl and I don’t like spending bunch of money on something like that. I told him that too, when we had those talks).

Well short story long I thought about proposing myself. I got creative and got us bracelets carved with the dates and coordinates and everything.

But now I am getting nervous. Not because I am not sure about that I really wanna marry my man, but I just noticed how deeply in me it is that the man should propose (though I think that’s old fashioned and doesn’t need to be). So now I am having question marks…

What do you guys think? Let it to him and just wait for it or just do it as I believe we are ready for it, nothing will really change, we talked about ideas on how we would like to get married some day and all the important stuff like children, money etc is talked through. We are also not young but on our early thirties.

I accidentally found out that I am getting engaged to during a October Hawaii trip! My BF's brother let it slip that my BF has the ring and has been setting things up with his cousins (who live in Hawaii).

I have a nail and hair appointment booked (which conveniently I always do before vacay - so I already have the appointments booked, but now instead of dying my hair an alt style I'm just going to keep my traditional haircut, and for my nails I'm doing a french tip with a little hibiscus flower design)

My original outfits where TBH quite revealing. Typically just being my bathing suit with a cover up and a skirt for when we walk around town. Which if we are getting photos which we will cherish for a lifetime I'm pivoting for more modest outfits.... I'm thinking a lot of sundresses so I don't risk comfortability just for trying to be cute?

I know we have a mixture of hiking, surfing, and a TON of eating plans. So I can't wear a sundress all of the time.... but I do plan on getting a new cute bathing suit and a matching activewear set just in case....

Those of you who kind of knew you were getting proposed to... what did you wear? I'm hoping to find some things that are still cute, but I can walk around in and not always have to be adjusting on my body.... (We live in a state that is cold year round so 75% of my wardrobe is sweaters and jeans 😭😭)

I will be taking a trip with my soon to be fiancé in October, we originally were going to make it road trip but plans changed and we are flying now. I’m a little nervous going through the airport with the ring and TSA giving it away when the bags get scanned/checked (I’ve never flown, so I don’t really know how all that works😅). Do you guys have any tips on how to keep it hidden and what not?
Thank you in advanced!!

Just had this moment recently and I looked at her and said. WOW this person really wants to spend the rest of their life with me. They want to be next to me with me every day. I was falling asleep and I suddenly realized I had this feeling where it just all hit me at once. It’s like a truck and now you can’t fall sleep.

Hello everyone,

I had a whole proposal planned for my partner in Hawaii, but unfortunately, due to Hurricane Lala, our trip was canceled. We’re rebooking for a later date, but I’ve had this ring for over a year now and I really don't want to wait any longer I’m determined to pop the question this week, ideally this Friday.

I live in Southern California and am scrambling to pull together a solid Plan B. Right now, starting from square one feels almost impossible. I know a lot of what I’m feeling is just emotional drain and disappointment from having to cancel a trip I’ve been looking forward to for months, but I really want to make this moment special regardless.

Does anyone have ideas, locations, or suggestions they could throw my way? Whether it's a scenic coastal spot, a cozy getaway vibe, or something unique in the SoCal area, any tips or advice would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks in advance for helping a stressed out, partner out!

Want to preface that I have OCD and tried to manage my expectations leading up to this moment that nothing was going to be perfect

I’ve been with my partner (I hate the word fiancé) for almost 8 years. We had talked about marriage and engagements and all that extensively. I ended up designing my own ring (he wanted me to) since I am so particular. I absolutely adore the ring and am so happy with it.

When discussing proposals etc I really only wanted a few things: 1) I wanted it to be private. Just us and a photographer. I didn’t want family or friends hiding. I didn’t want an audience. 2) I wanted a pretty background. 3) I didn’t want a surprise party after.

It was really important to me that the engagement felt intimate. Well he proposed last night. We were on a mini vacation getaway with some of his family members (mom, brother, grandparents) and he decided to propose on our last night there. The house had a private beach and he hired a photographer. That was all great. But his family was hiding in the house inside. And his mom obviously took candid photos (that I hated the way I looked in) and sent them to my mom and my mom posted them before i even got to post anything.

I also found out that he waited to tell my family (who all live in another state) until morning of. I don’t mind that, especially because him and I both know my mom isn’t good at keeping a secret. But now my family is making it my problem and making me feel bad that they weren’t there. Which i didn’t want my family there to begin with, nor his family either. His mom also took it upon herself to invite her sister and brother in law (my partner was not aware until they showed up). And then they brought us out to dinner at a not so good restaurant. I really just wanted to soak it all in just the two of us.

I feel so ungrateful for being disappointed. I honestly wasn’t that upset until my family started making me feel bad. I’m extremely overwhelmed. I know in the grand scheme of things, it doesn’t matter. And I can plan an engagement party exactly how I want it.

I don’t know if I should communicate these feelings to him or if maybe how I feel over time will lessen or go away

I am so happy to be engaged. I'm not sure I even want a metal ring (I'm currently wearing a silicone one which is very comfortable but it keeps falling off). We are still going to have a look at some in person in case I change my mind and find one that feels comfortable to wear.

The problem is: the ones I like online are around £2500. That feels like a lot. I want lab grown stones. His budget is half that at the moment because of financial reasons. Is it weird to take his budget and for me to pay for the rest of it so I can get one I like?

So I'm thinking of when would be a good time to propose to my girlfriend, and I thought that I can do it during a trip to Peru with her and my friends. We are going in about a week, and I'm now looking at rings.

Since we're going to Machu Picchu during the trip, I thought that what I can do is when we reach the summit with a scenic view, I can do it there. I can ask my friends to take photos or whatever there.

I told this to the guy friend this idea who is also going, and he criticized me that this sounds like I'm doing this in too short of planning, too casual and low effort. He says I'm basically just bringing a ring and that's it.

He's not wrong in the sheer mechanic of what's happening, but is that really low effort to do it in a scenic spot far away from home even if in the end of the day it's just a ring?

Its time to pop the question i have most of it pland out im struggle on the ring

So my partners mum sadly passed away 5 years ago they still miss them a lot.

So i waned to try to get a stone that ive had up the grave for a year+ so it has the engeny of there mum.

So my question is how dose one start goggle had not help me much a brought me to the sup.

Much appreciated.

Edit 1: im from Scotland uk and the Stone i am hoping to use is one pick up from the beach i dont have a picture of them stone but can get one soon when we next go up to the graveyard. Any questions please let me know

okay so I got proposed to yesterday, super excited! my man has had a ring picked for himself out for a long long time (he’s going to be wearing an engagement ring too)

I’m going to buy it this week, it’ll come pretty quickly. but I need some help presenting the ring to him in a cute way

I thought about proposing back, but I don’t think that would be something he’d be into. I also don’t want to just hand him the box and that’s that. we’re also not very well off financially so I can’t take him somewhere fancy

idk I just want it to be heartfelt and I have no ideas, I’ve had lots of time to plan this but just haven’t

Hi 👋

I want to begin by saying that I have a wonderful partner and I want to spend the rest of my life with him, but I am so disappointed with how my proposal went. We have had premarital counseling and I see my own therapist but I am still having a really hard time moving past this. It’s mainly an issue for me because when I see my friends and family get engaged it is so hard for me to be happy for them because I get reminded of my sadness over my own proposal. Then it just turns into a spiral of guilt for not being 100% present for my friends and fear that I will never have him surprise me with nice gestures in the future. As a chronic people pleaser, it is nice to feel special and appropriated once in a blue moon without having to drop hints.

From the beginning I let him know that I didn’t want or need an over the top and expensive event, however, I did not think that this would translate into me getting the ring while dripping wet in a towel after the shower. To me, the big thing missing was a heartfelt message about why he wants to get married. He has a lot of anxiety so I felt like I had to pull teeth to get it to happen, he had the ring for about a year. We have had a very long engagement ~2 years as of now and we get married in a few months. I have told him many times about my disappointment and my fears for the future but he hasn’t done anything. He is such a great partner in every other aspect except for this milestone so I am kind of at a loss for what I should do. When I think about it now, a redo of the proposal would just piss me off because I would probably have to say something.

Having a hard time finding a proposal location at an Airbnb in SoCal without breaking the bank. It’s a complete surprise which is why our dog is coming. “We’ll go hiking in the morning”

Can anyone help me find a location under $650 near ocean (PCH) to propose?

I know my partner is planning to officially pop the question sometime within the next week. It hasn’t happened yet but I know he has the ring and he just started asking questions recently about my nails and lashes lol
I was hoping we could do a backyard party before his parents shut down their heated pool (we live in New England so that’s usually sometime in September, but since it’s heated they get a little extra time if they want it)

I was thinking the Sunday before Labor Day (9/6) or possibly the Sunday after (9/13) at the very latest Sunday 9/20.
I think 9/6 would be best because everyone has Monday off too and it will be warmest for swimming.
Would this be too short notice? I do already have a ton of supplies so wouldn’t have to scramble too much for that.
But I’m just worried about guests making it.
It’s nothing formal, we’d just grill some bbq, some lawn games, have some drinks (no bartenders or anything, play the music on a speaker)