Last Friday I had a small get together at my place, invited 4 people, pretty casual thing. I made food and bought drinks for that many people, nothing over the top but I had some money set aside specifically for this so I actually put effort into it.
One of my friends shows up with 3 people I've never met in my life. zero heads up, no "hey can I bring some friends," nothing. I let it go because I didnt want to start anything but these people wiped out literally everything within like an hour. all the food gone, drinks gone.
At one point I said something like "damn you guys came hungry huh" as kind of a lighthearted comment and she pulls me aside later saying I was making her friends feel unwelcome and that I was being a jerk about it.
I apologized but I dont think I was in the wrong? A simple text beforehand wouldve been enough, I wouldve just prepared more. Now she's gone quiet on me and apparently told a couple of our mutual friends that I was rude to her guests.
Like was my comment really that bad or is she deflecting because she knows she shouldve asked first?