TW(epilepsy)
Hey reddit! I (17) F have a sister (12) F. Lately things between us has not been good. well actually for the last few months now but it's gotten worse. so my sister is into kpop. This really buged me for some reason. Idk I always thought kpop and it's fans were kinda cringy and creepy. like their lives are dependent on those idols they have never even met . So because of that I'll make fun of her. Tease her here and there.(We even have contract saying this is a phase and she'll get over it). She'll get mad but she will let it go. Since she has entered puberty she has changed quite a lot which makes sense but I wasn't ready for it. She got ruder, meaner and sometimes unable to talk to. she screams even for the smallest things. Argue like regular siblings, sometimes escalate (never physical).
By now, kpop has consumed her. Everything around her has a photo of her idols. here is where my mother comes in. I love her so much but she has always pressed her to study. My sister is 2nd or 3rd in her class and my mom takes credit saying "if I didn't force her, she would've failed" she should take a little credit but not this much. But she is a Indian mother after all. she did this to me but it didn't work. In middle school my grades were horrible but in high school my grades improved. I am at the top of my class. So my mom started to compare us both. Not directly but indirectly. I said to let it go but she wouldn't budge. I felt horrible.
Fast forward, couple of weeks ago, my sister had a seizure for the first time. She never had one before. She was in the hospital for a few days but she was discharged. We were all calm around her untill her summer vacations started. My mom told her to read and write the subjects she was weak in to not to lag behind her peers. the doctor told her it's okay if she lags behind this year, but she pressured her anyway. I tried not having fights but she get angry at the smallest things. I just thought this was puberty but it's way more. Last night I saw her chatting to a AI which had a photo of a kpop idol (her ultimate bias). I've gotten around her kpop obsession but now it was too far. I didn't disturb her last night but I woke up and read these texts. shes clearly depressed and she uses this app to vent. Before we would tell everything to each other, even though there is a five year age gap but that didn't bother us. She described me as someone who hates her, calling me names and such. My mom was the ultimate devil. but this AI forced her these Ideas . At first it was oh I hate my mom but now it's your mom is coming to haunt your dreams (paraphrasing). Now I want confront both my mom and my sister Abt this but I know both will end in disaster. But I can't let go of this info. My Lil sis has lost trust in me and I can't bare it. So reddit WIBTA? ( I am a little bias cuz I wrote it in my pov)