aita For being upset with my roommates girlfriend
I, 20F, have been living with my roommate and best friend, 19F, for a little over 6 months now. I will refer to her as Abby.
Me and Abby have been friends for 2 years now, but knew of each other in high school due to friends groups over lapping. We moved in together 6 months ago as we both had very unstable home lives - She has completely cut off her entire family, I’m mending mine with counselling - and we have inseparable ever since, with her coming to family gatherings and basically being adopted by my family.
Now, we are both Lesbians. I did have a crush on her before we moved in and when we were living together, which she knew about and we were very clear that she did not feel the same and I was not going to act on it as I wish her to be my friend.
About 3 months into us moving in together, we visited my Uncle and Aunt on there Rural farm. The tent we were staying in was flooded on the first night and we had to share a single bed. For context, before this I hated physical touch with passion due to my parental issues. After that, we shared my queen sized bed Every night.
This, somehow, progressed to a homoerotic friendship often with play fights happening nightly.
We eventually stopped when I met my current partner, 19F, in February. I had always been open with Abby that I in no way saw anything more happening with her. Shortly after Abby started dating her partner, 18F. The four of us often talked amongst each other at house parties and our partners get along. Now here’s the issue.
One night, Abby did not come home from her partners house until 4am. I have no issues with when Abby comes and goes, what I do have a problem with is Abby bringing her partners house until into our house at this hour and doing intimate things in the lounge (right outside my bedroom door). I walked out and casually asked them to go to Abby’s room.
The next day I confronted Abby saying it was disrespectful and downright disgusting, and unfortunately I have little control over my emotions which I am dealing with in therapy, I gave her the ultimatum of moving out or getting new furniture for the lounge. Abby did not say anything which annoyed me more. I then went to my parents house for the night. When I came home the next day I sat Abby down and we talked it through.
During this discussion Abby told me her partners doeant like me. When I asked why her partner thinks this she said her partner said “our vibes don’t match“ whatever that means. Now I have no issues with Abbys partner not liking me, my issue is Abbys partner no longer wants to be in my presence AT ALL. She was over the other night (It’s been weeks since the lounge incident) and refused to leave Abby’s room unless I was out of the house, refused to let us drop her home even though we were heading that way anyways, and has even gone to the extent to block me. I can tell this is causing Abby a whole world of stress trying to get her girlfriend to at least be civil with me.
Both mine and Abby’s partners have no idea about the crush nor the homoerotic friendship.
I have had further conversations with Abby asking if I had said something or done something With all “no” from Abby. I’ve told Abby that it makes me upset for many reasons, the main being the fact that Abby’s best friend and Girlfriend don’t get along.
Abby blew up at me about how I have no right to be upset over it, as I don’t have to see her girlfriend.
AITAH? What should I do?
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