u/Commercial-Trash-226

Whenever I’m dating I find myself pushing away people that show too much interest in me. It somewhat overwhelms me and causes me to become an avoidant. However, when someone breadcrumbs me, I find myself “latching on” and end up acting like have an anxious attachment style.

I’m finding the imbalance a little exhausting as ultimately I end up holding into toxic relationships longer than I should. And self - sabotaging relationships that could actually be worthwhile

Does anyone else find themselves going through the same pattern? Or are my issues just completely unrelated and linked to something else?