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I’m graduating soon and I’m trying to figure out how to handle a complicated friendship situation before I move on.

I have a best friend I’ve known for a long time. We’ve had a lot of history, and while there were good moments, there were also times where I felt hurt or not treated very kindly. For example, there were situations where I felt dismissed, spoken to harshly. Even after those moments, we stayed friends and I still care about her.

I also have these 2 girls which are my roommates. In the past year, they’ve been consistently supportive of me, especially during stressful times when my best friend is treating me bad.

Recently, my best friend had a serious conflict with this group. Things escalated and now she and they have each other blocked.

Now I feel stuck in the middle. I don’t live with any of them anymore since I’m graduating, but I still care about everyone involved. I don’t want to be forced into picking sides, but it feels like the situation is already split.

I’m struggling because:

• my best friend has been in my life for a long time, but there were past moments where I didn’t feel well treated or emotionally supported
• my other friends have been really present and supportive recently
• now both sides are in conflict and communication is basically broken
• Both sides are now asking me to cut the other off because they feel disrespected, so I feel like I’m being forced to choose loyalty

What is the healthiest way to move forward in a situation like this?
Should I stay neutral, slowly distance, or try to maintain separate friendships?

Any advice would really help.