2.5 years in a LDR and we still haven't met. Is that too long? [F20/M19]
For context, I'm a 20 year old girl (Spain) and I've been in a LDR with a 19 year old boy (Austria) for about 2 and a half years now, and we still haven't been able to meet in person
It's not because we don't want to. We both want to see each other and we do have a future in mind. The problem is that we genuinely don't have the means to make it happen right now. I personally have no way to make money at the moment because, to make a long story short, I live in an extremely small village with no transportation at all, so I can't even get to places where I could work. I've tried different ways to earn money online too, but nothing has worked out so far
That means all the financial responsibility would fall on him. And without going too deep into personal details, he also deals with a lot of responsibilities and problems at home, which makes finding a stable job and saving money difficult for him too
Maybe 2 years doesn't sound that long to some people, but since we've been together during that transition from being teenagers to becoming adults, it feels a lot heavier emotionally. And honestly, constantly seeing so many long distance couples online who manage to meet after only a few months can feel really discouraging sometimes. It makes me wonder if our situation is abnormal or hopeless, even though I know every relationship is different
At the same time, I don't want other people's experiences or negative opinions to affect how I view my own relationship too much. So I'd really like to hear from other couples who also took a long time to meet for the first time, or who struggled financially/logistically before finally making it happen
Did things eventually work out for you?