My bestie feels less like my bestie
Hey yall, I f21 have been feeling like my bestie (Kate) of near a decade and I aren’t as close as we used to be. We’re in a trio with another girl (Andie), but Kate and I recently had a conversation of how Kate feels.
Andie and I have a ton of inside jokes that we try to get Kate in on, but she’s not really into them and isn’t that kind of person is what she said. When we drive around I always try to reach my hand back to touch Kate and include her in conversations. I brought up her coming to sit shot gun before a few times but she hasn’t wanted to do that.
Over the years I kinda noticed that me and Kate’s chemistry isn’t quite the same as me and Andie’s, we send each other reels but it doesn’t lead to as many jokes or conversations like we do. She says that it kinda seems like Andie is more my best friend and I can kinda see it now.
Kate was my day 1 bestie and I want to make her feel more included in this trio. We all hang out lots together but I don’t want her to feel like a third wheel! It’s been accumulating over the years she said, and I want solutions on how to be on the same wavelength as I am with Andie, and vice versa with Andie and Kate.
We don’t quite hang out 1-1 between all of us because we don’t really have time, most of our hang outs are going to the gym 2x a week with all three of us.
Any solutions?