u/Commercial_Park_3219

Im feeling hopeless, jumping across from “is this jealousy or is it intuition”. Problem im facing is that my boyfriend of 2 years and I are expecting our first baby this summer, as exciting that is we had to move in together because of that. Felt forced and a lot of factors in our relationship have felt exactly that; forced somehow. Meanwhile he still keeps in close touch with his ex, who has a boyfriend also but I can’t stop this feeling of “some doors haven’t been closed”. I feel like he knows my boundaries but has blurred them himself out to keep his ex close in his life. I have mentioned my interest in meeting her but that fell on deaf ears. It feels like, but he has only mentioned her wanting to meet me in relations of the baby and being in its life. I feel like im drowning and keep questioning my self worth in this relationship. Not only because of that but we’ve had sex only 3 times since moving in together around Christmas. I feel constantly like drifting away and dissociating, because if I bring it up i’m the “possessive controlling girlfriend” and I don’t want that, neither to be passive. I feel like im slowly losing interest in keeping this together for the future and just taking myself out of this situation. How do I resolve this issue without an ultimatum for either of us, without causing conflict between us and strain for me and our unborn child?