u/CommitteeMean4750

Guys i am devastated, i have been crying a lot, because i dont want to lose him. He is a man in my life i never had before. I improved so much because i have been in therapy for 2 years. I just like him so much and he is so important. How can i let him go? I feel like i cannot. How am i supposed to live life like before, and not updating him about everything? My heart just hurt so much. I never expected this since i was the one suggesting to try to end therapy because i am much better. He told me its totally ok if i want to continue after this, because i started sobbing in session when we talked about it. I just dont know what to do. Eventually i will have to let go, because i feel like therapy is just updates nowdays and not real breakthroughs. When i saw him walking by and disappearing at the end of the street when we were going home, i just started sobbing. Please give me advice, because i want this pain and abandonement to pass and i feel like nobody gets me why it is hard.

I have been in therapy for like a year and a half now and my therapist has been helping me a lot. I feel seen by him etc. I have a bit of attraction to him but i think that's ok. I have problems with people pleasing, self confidence and also trust in men. He has been a great role model for me to show that not all men are like the ones i had in my life.

However for the past couple of months i feel like i don't need therapy or at least weekly because i run out of topics. I email him tomorrow that i want to go once a month and then stop. But guys i just started sobbing because he has become important and its like losing a friend i met every week for like 1,5 a year. I feel much much better and i feel greatful for that however i am scared if i stop something will happen and i will need therapy although i wanna be independent. I dont know if therapists do monthly sessions or its useless at this point. What should i do guys?

I feel dumb because it feels like nobody can understeand why i have this attachment to him, but also i see that for the past couple of months he could not tell me new things that i can benefit from. So probably its time to be more independent but what if i still need it. I cannot decide guys and i gave myself a deadline, which is tomorrow. I will send that email. I have been feeling this for like a couple of months so its not new but how can i be sure i am ready? Pls help me i feel so lost and sad 🥹🥹

I 27F have been in therapy for like a year now and my therapist has been helping me a lot. I feel seen by him etc. I have a bit of attraction to him but i think that's ok. I have problems with people pleasing, self confidence and also trust in men. He has been a great role model for me to show that not all men are like the ones i had in my life.

However for the past couple of months i feel like i don't need therapy or at least weekly because i run out of topics. And i started stressing about this, because sometimes he would just look at me in silence. I told him i am uncomfortable with awkward silences but today it was just annoying. We get along so well and its clear he also likes me but when i told him i never know what to say in the silences he just kept looking at me for like 1 minute smiling and said yeaah, we just stopped for a second.... and kept looking. I know it does not sound long but trust me it was loong in the moment. And my brain was just like omg what topic should i bring up how should i continue? I am paying a lot for something and i have to be the one solving the problem of running out of topic? I am just annoyed! But i like him tho.

I don't think it is my responsibility to keep the session going. Ofc i bring the topics but like can he help out in these moments? Also i feel like we are friends at this point catching up weekly and i dont benefit from the sessions like i did before. I know you will laugh at me but i just cannot tell him that i wanna go monthly because i am a people pleaser😭😭

Guys do you think it is ok to go to my therapist in a summery outfit? It is a cute top, but does not cover my whole stomach. I kinda wanna look cute...i am attracted to him but i wear things like this anyway so its not only for this reason...i feel stupid asking this but i dont wanna be disrespectful or anything