I don't know what else to do
Me (26, Husband) and my Wife (25) have had sex a grand total of 3 times this year and I'm dying inside. We've had the discussion before about me needing more sex as I would like it around 3 times a week ideally but I understand that is a lot to a lot of people. We've been together for a little over 10 years and we stopped having regular sex about 4 years ago, and I want to make it abundantly clear I love my wife more than anything, I will drop everything in my life if she asked me. 7-8ish years ago she got on SSRI's for anxiety and they've absolutely tanked her libido. This in addition to her chasing a masters and overall having a lot going on. For the past couple years I have really just felt like a roomate and it makes me feel worse knowing that she does masturbate and she tells me about it like she's talking to a friend and the last couple times we had sex is only because she was drunk and that seems to be the only time she's into me. I have tried initiating a lot and get turned down almost always. We tried doing a "free use" sort of deal awhile ago and I could tell she wasn't really into it and it grossed me out so we stopped. I feel unnatractive and less masculine because no matter what I try nothing seems to get her in the mood, it really makes me feel like she's not into me but I can't blame her, obviously she has a lot on her plate. I've considered asking about opening up our marriage but I know that it would just blow the whole thing up and I can't lose her. She's talked about trying supplements to help arousal, has anyone had luck with anything like that? I really don't know what else to do, living like this is killing me.