How long are you willing to wait for a ring?
My boyfriend and I (30 M & F) have been together for 7 years. Ive been asking this man for a ring for at least 3 years and he still refuses to get me one. We’re not in a good place financially, so I understand him not proposing right now, but I told him, not an engagement ring, but like a promise ring or just something to show our commitment to each other. I don’t care if it’s a $2 ring from Shein, I just wanted something. Idk, I don’t think I’m asking for too much.
But it’s been 7 years and I’m tired of asking over and over and over and I’m starting to wonder in he’s just keeping me around until he finds something better. I love my boyfriend of course, and this is my longest relationship so far. And if we plan to be together forever, I don’t mind waiting and taking the long way atound. But for marriage, I don’t mind waiting, but I still want a ring that shows me that even if we aren’t engaged, we’re committed to getting to that point.
Honestly, I’m thinking about separating myself from this relationship. I don’t know how many more years I’m supposed to just hang around, keep asking for the same thing over and over just to be told “later.” Or “now isn’t a good time”.
My question is, how long are you willing to wait for a man to commit? However that looks like to you. Whether it’s an engagement or a promise ring, how long is too ling to wait for you?
Because maybe I’m just being impatient and dating right now sucks, so maybe I should just stay in this relationship because, at the end of the day, my boyfriend is a good man. He has a job, his own place, his own car, he cares about me, and treats me very well. But even with all that, should I still stay? Even if it never turns into a marriage??? Am I just being a brat? Idk anymore.
UPDATE:
Just some clarification for those asking:
We currently do not live together but we used to. Many things have happened in our relationship through the years and long story short, our last apartment flooded and we ended up moving into my dad’s house. My dad and him don’t really get along too well so he moved out and I decided to stay at my dads (because my dad is elderly and I want to be here to help him and he only charges me $600 in rent)
He has a plan to fix our financial situation but right now, the job market is just terrible and we are both struggling when it comes to our income. He also pays a lot more bills than I do for myself considering he has his own place and I live with my dad.
I love my boyfriend to death and thats honestly why I’m even in this situation. I don’t have options like others do. I’m fat, ugly, over 6ft tall…… I can’t “just leave him and find someone else.” I will be single for an extremely long time, if not forever if I break up with him.
But also half the reason why I stayed so long with him because he treats me like a Princess. He tells me I’m beautiful. He listens to me when I speak. He’s open to adventures and he’s receptive to the things I want. Literally, he gives me everything I want within reason, this is literally the only thing he’s dragged his feet on. But he was the first person to bring up the marriage conversation in our relationship. He made it clear to me that he was dating for marriage. I was the one more hesitant about it at first but it seems like after 7 years, our positions have switched.