My birthday is typically a day or two before Mother's day. A few years ago, my mom asked what I wanted and I just said we could go for lunch or dinner. My suggestions were restaurants in the $20/person range, not asking for too much?
My mom then says, you should be celebrating me on your birthday, I did all the work. Ok... but 2-3 days later is Mother's day and we have always done something she wants/likes. Not like we skip out on that. Except for last year, when I was already cooking food she requested but then she said she was just going for brunch with her "friends" (likely other narcissists).
She has said for years that she's not doing presents (birthdays, Christmas) anymore and her sister/my aunt doesn't either. Well, I find out this year from my aunt, yeah she doesn't buy gifts, but gives Christmas gift baskets she makes and ~$600 in cash for each of her kids. Then for birthdays either cash, they do a spa day or concert. Just the way my mom twisted that... how manipulative.