u/Communication_Sweaty

I wrote a harshly worded address a couple of weeks ago which was removed by the mods for the fact that it was a bit too extreme.

They removed it not knowing it was me who posted it, and it would've stayed on the sub nevertheless if I wanted it to.

However I told the mod who removed my post that I'll rewrite it as reflecting on my words, people who are willing to work for the Brahmin cause don't deserve the harshness that I reserve for our adversaries usually.

Thus, this is my rewritten version. And I'll have the mod himself post it, possibly. Or post it myself right now if I'm in a hurry.

This is what I'd like our women to know well.

You can go out and consider achieving all that you want to, and our community's history only proves that we've made sure that our women get the privileges they deserve.

Brahmin women were among the first women, probably the first women to cross the sea for purposes of education.

We as a community have relatively done the best we can for our women, and all I want is for you to know that we're willing to address as many problems and fix them as we can.

If you observe the vows taken during Kalyanam(wedding) rituals, it is only when the conditions first put ahead by the Kanya are accepted by the Vara(groom), that the marriage is sanctioned.

Now if someone chooses the wrong kind of brom men, the men who don't deserve to live a married life or the happiness of it, you cannot choose to blame the entirety of Brom men UNLESS you had an equal investment in the community.

And that investment is only via unilateral acceptance of the fact that you need brom men just as much as they need you, while choosing not to parade that fact onto roads or in public, in general.

As a rule of thumb, if you see a problem with brom men it is your duty to first confirm that the problem exists as a statistical reality, and then discuss it out in the same manner as you would address a problem to a friend.

We only have each other.

So patience and trust are of huge importance.

Marriage as a decision can be very burdening, scary for either men or women but know that faith, sacrifice and endurance fix all that can be.

Obviously once again judge the person as they are, don't roam around with a checklist or tell them your expectations, just see if they fit into the bigger picture of yours or not.

If you can't respect a man, don't marry him. If circumstances force that choice, do your best. But don't think you're entitled to any expectations because no human is, as said by Shri Hari in BG.

Have faith, don't commit to men who aren't appealing to you, but if you do commit, have complete faith and don't do anything foolish for that man, until he marries you.

If you want to date, well and good. Date brom men. But don't expect them to wait 5 years for you to marry them. Marrying on time is our duty and, even if you're someone who has a valid reason to delay such a huge decision, let's say, you wanna "focus on your career", have the faith that the man will look after you, your family, and his family until you are able to take care of your parents and siblings on your own. Also the children.

I thank you if you're able to understand me because I've never met any woman who's more beautiful than those in Brahmin samaj, for you emerge as the beautiful kamal, rising above the filth of Kaliyuga.

Brom men were raised by brom women at all points and it is only by trusting each other that we can protect ourselves.

Now, the address to brom men.

You're not similar to the average human being. You're the one who'll be responsible for कलि's throat being crushed under the feet of Shri Kalki.

His birth will happen in a Brahmin Kula and keep that in mind before defiling your body through animalistic urges.

Remember that you're a Brahmin.

Make sure to wear the thread.

It's a lot more important than you think.

Sandhyavandanam is a must. Anyhow. At least once in a day.

Remember that in Bhagwat Gita, the highest virtue is courage to do the right thing.

It isn't kindness.

It isn't bhakti.

In a country where Ruchi Tiwari and many other unnamed brom women have been disrespected the way they are, it is always a call for us to take control of the Varna Vyavastha, and use our mantra bala, Shshtra bala among all methods to tame the influence of कलि

Evil entities often get into power and even in our Itihasa Puranas, Asurs were known to gain boons from gods themselves.

But one often forgets, gods are not moral referees, rewarding good or punishing bad behavior.

They are guardians of the law, tapasya produces results.

It DOES NOT care whether the seeker is good, kind, or empathetic.

Sustained discipline, focus and sacrifice reshape reality itself.

Power in view of our Dharma, is neutral. It doesn't purify you, it only amplifies who you are.

Power itself is never dangerous, but the characters holding them are, we don't need to snatch the power of those hurting us.

It is only when power grows faster than wisdom that adharma appears, so if Brahmins are in a state of weakness as of now, consider it just a message from gods that we are not ready yet.

And remember that as you put in the efforts.

It may seem fallacious as at the same time we've told that no specific fruits are guaranteed anyway for specific actions but again you miss one part of the karma equation when you say that, as the phala of a karma changes when the doer itself is different too.

Most people chase results, some fixate on the action but very few look at the one who is acting. That's where it all goes wrong.

You and someone can perform the same action,

The same job.

The same intensity of efforts in a relationship.

The same intensity of discipline.

Yet the outcomes are vastly different.

Why?

Why this difference in outcomes?

Not because gods or life is unfair, no.

It's because YOU, the doer is different.

When the karta, the doer is pulled by fear or craving, even the good action scatters. They create mixed results, exhaustion and resentment.

But at the same time when the karta, the doer is steady, what the Gita calls Stith Pragya.

The same action gains weight, they land differently, they compound instead of leaking away. There's a reason why Shri Hari spends a lot of his words explaining the stability of mind, clarity of mind, and freedom from compulsive reaction because it is the very inner mechanics of functioning freely and properly.

Your karma isn't wrong.

But you're still negotiating with fear, approval and outcome.

So before questioning your faith or deviating from right conduct due to lack of results, ask yourself once who is acting right now.

Because when the karta is refined, karma follows.

If there isn't at least one man willing to embody Parashurama when needed, across every city of this country where Brahmins are trying to live, we should stop considering the idea that we deserve brom women.

So do your best, baman boy. Kaliyuga isn't going to be merciful to you anyway.

For my closing words, I would like to address both brom women and men once again.

Both men and women irrespective of their castes have been lately drafted into a war, and the strangest part is most of us don't realize that we're fighting in it.

Scroll through any social media feed for 5minutes and you'll see that we're been told what a real man must do, what a proper woman must be.

Every influencer has a formula and a rulebook, and slowly without even realizing it, you start viewing the Brahmin woman or man, as an opponent in your life,

Instead of a jeevan saathi who's going to flourish with you.

I cannot pretend that men and women are identical, we have different instincts, strengths and ways of carrying responsiblity. And over time I believe that this difference can sometimes be seen as a declaration of superiority by either gender, more so by men.

But this difference is rather a way of god pointing towards our complementarity with each other. But funnily enough it has been turned into a hierarchy.

Long before gender debates were ever a thing, our Dharma viewed us as Purush, Prakriti.

Shiva, Shakti.

Neither exists without the other in a meaningful manner.

Creation itself happens through their union.

The only reason I can conclude as to why gender war exists is because outrage sells and anger is a lot easier to express than wisdom.

You can post that men are the problem, or women are the problem, both posts will go viral because conflict travels faster through algorithm than love ever does, however our civilizations were built upon families and families are built through relationship between man and a woman *learning how to cooperate despite their differences*.

We need to understand and question why we are being trained to see each other as enemies rather than question the differences between us.

Do your best. Everyone.