Our baby is turning 1 in just two short months and I need to decide how we’re going to celebrate. Would love to hear what everyone is doing/has done for their baby’s first birthday!
Proud mom of a 9.5 month old boy who I love very much but lately it just feels like everything is a struggle. Diaper changes. Putting baby in the car seat. Feeding a bottle. Feeding solids. Putting baby to sleep. Getting baby in the stroller. Putting baby in the walker. It just seems like he hates everything, and fights me on everything.
He THRASHES, flips, kicks and screams every single time I try to change him or dress him, every single time I try to put him in a high chair, or strap him into his car seat, or really do anything at all that requires him to be even mildly restrained for a second.
He doesn’t take his morning nap unless I walk him in the stroller, but he refuses to let me strap him into the stroller anymore. It’s a convertible bassinet stroller to seated stroller, so sometimes I’d just give up and let him sit in the bassinet like a little wagon—but I can’t do that anymore because he tries to stand up and climb out. Today I lost my cool and just said ok, if you can’t sit down then we’re not going for a walk at all. Then he proceeded to thrash and scream bloody murder for 40 minutes because he was exhausted for his nap, but he refused a bottle and rocking.
I just don’t know what to do anymore and I feel like my baby hates me or something. I’m a SAHM and I’m tired of fighting him all day every day. It literally requires two people to hold him down so I can attend his basic needs and I can’t do it on my own anymore. Every time he poops, for instance, he does an alligator death roll and it gets EVERYWHERE. Changing him on my own is a shit-smeared disaster each and every time.
He does have a WIDE variety of toys on the changing table, stroller, car seat, high chair etc and I rotate new ones every single day but nothing distracts him anymore.
It wasn’t always like this either, it’s only gotten like this since he’s become more mobile.
Please someone tell me this is a phase….
Not sure what this style of stair is called, but these are very common where I live. Because of the way the banisters, railing, and floor molding are situated all at different depths, there’s no way I can fit a baby gate so that both ends of the gate lay flush and secure. I linked to some picture above to show what I mean.
We’ve tried three different gates already! Baby tried climbing the stairs this morning while my back was turned for a second and nearly gave me a heart attack so we really need to figure this out ASAP.
Any ideas or alternatives I can try? Thank you!
He will occasionally put his hands on it or guide it to his mouth, but he has never actually held the bottle and fed himself. He will sometimes place the bottle on the floor and lower his mouth onto the nipple and attempt to drink it that way, to no avail (he hasn’t figured out the concept of gravity yet, lol). But if he has to hold it himself, he will not do it. Should I be concerned?
What is that faint floral, yet papery smell?
I’m a first-time mom to a beautiful little boy, who is the light of my life.
I love him so much, and as a feminist, it is incredibly important to me that I raise him to be a good man. But I find myself constantly fretting over whether I am up to the task.
I realize how bizarre this will sound, but sometimes I worry that I am too obsessed with my baby? And I worry that I’m becoming a “boy mom”. For instance, I saw a Mother’s Day display in Target the other day with matching mommy-and-baby pajama sets and I immediately wanted one, but stopped and thought to myself “is it strange behavior to match outfits with my son? Is that boy mom behavior?”
My baby is literally only 9 months old, and I know you can’t spoil a baby, and it’s normal to obsess over your infant. I realize it’s a ridiculous anxiety-induced thought. But it just keeps creeping back in, always making me second guess myself.
I feel like a lot of the bad behavior we see in adult men starts in childhood with the patterns established by their mothers, for instance—constantly excusing their bad behavior, fawning over their every breath deserved or not (while not fawning over their daughters in the same way or even acknowledging your daughters’ achievements at all), and being way too involved in their lives almost to the point of being emotionally incestuous with their sons. TBH, I don’t feel like I can think of a single example of a healthy relationship between a mother and her son in my real life, or in the media, and that’s maybe fueling my anxiety. I can’t imagine what a healthy relationship with my adult son would even look like.
I’d love to hear from other mothers of boys out there and understand what a healthy relationship with your son means to you—what does that look like in your opinion?