I’m (19F) a virgin who has only recently started trying sexual things with my boyfriend (21M). We’re having a lot of fun with hand stuff and oral, and it’s of course all pretty vanilla. But now I’m stressing because many of his TikTok likes have something to do with being dominated by women, being made to call them mommy, being praised and called a good boy, etc etc. I’m not that kind of woman at all, and it worries me. I’m unsure of how to move forward with this maybe-kink in mind, and it would likely be premature of me to bring it up.
As I mentioned, I’m not a very domineering woman—in fact a bit of a pushover. Yet as I’ve grown more comfortable with him, I’ve found it easier (and sort of fun) to boss him around a little. Maybe committing to that during sex would be a fun change from how I usually make my way through the world? I worry that I’m deluding myself though; I enjoy the idea of being dominated far more, plus the thought of being called “mommy” repulses me a bit.
Deep-down, I’m terrified that he won’t truly enjoy sex with me if I don’t step on him or whatever. I don’t know if we’re sexually incompatible or not, and would be very grateful for thoughts/advice.