u/Competitive-Heart118

My (47F) best friend from college (48F) moved to Alaska about a decade ago. We’re both from Texas. We were really close despite being different. She a happy go lucky hippie and I’m a pretty straight-laced introvert. We’ll call her Jade.
Since Jade moved, we’re not as close. She used to have great jobs based on her degree but here lately she’s been involved in MLMs that are probably bleeding her dry.
I would never show up in a friends town and just expect to have them host me and drive me around (or let me borrow their car), but she does and also sort of gaslights me into thinking I’m the one with problem. How can we have two fully insured paid off vehicles and not let her drive one of them hours away to see other friends?
She shows up in town at the most awful, inconvenient times - usually in the middle of the week. I work a corporate job with late hours most days. I also train at the gym in the evening and go visit my mom who is very sick.
Jade wants to stay out late and borrow my car or my husband’s. My husband calls her “the user” because she never rents her own vehicle or gets a hotel room. And everything is last minute without any planning. She never commits to plans either - all of her itineraries are vague and “open to possibilities”.
So AITA for not extending an invite to come over and stay? I feel like this is some 20yo’s problem and that we are both way too old for this.