How do I [18F] get a girl at school [18F] to leave me and my boyfriend alone [18M]?
I’m 18F, my boyfriend is 18M, and this girl is also 18F. We all go to the same school and we’re in our fourth year now.
Basically, this girl has been bothering me since first year. It’s not even just about my boyfriend. She has a pattern of trying to get close to or “take” people I care about, especially my friends, and now it’s happening with him too.
My boyfriend and I have only been together for a month, but we were friends before that, and he was in love with me for three years. Pretty much everyone in our class knew that. Even before we got together, this girl was weird about him, and now she’s been calling him regularly and trying to involve herself with him more.
What makes this so frustrating is that this isn’t some one-time thing. She’s done this before with other people I’m close to, which is why I feel like this is partly about him, but also partly about me. I genuinely can’t tell if she actually likes him or if she just has some issue with me and keeps trying to go after people I care about.
I want to make it clear that this is not about me not trusting my boyfriend, because I do trust him. My issue is with her and the fact that I’ve had to deal with this kind of behavior from her for years now, and I honestly can’t deal with it anymore.
I don’t know what to do to make her leave me, my boyfriend, and honestly the people I care about in general alone. I want to tell her to back off, but I don’t know if I should confront her directly, ignore it, or do something else.
If this isn’t the right subreddit for this, sorry, I
just genuinely didn’t know where else to post it.
TLDR: A girl at my school has been trying to get close to people I care about since first year, and now she’s doing the same with my boyfriend by calling him regularly. I trust my boyfriend, but I’m exhausted by her behavior and want to know how to make her leave me and the people I care about alone.