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Im 16 and ive only had 1 GF before, i dont know werther it is my looks that makes me not be able to get a girlfriend or my lack in confidence, if anybody thinks they can help you can give me advice

Please and thank you

idk i js had to put smt here

I’m close to 16 year old , sadly people know me as a playboy , before you hate me please let me talk . 5 year ago or 4 I was fat had glasses and a terrible haircut and the moment I changed girls started giving me attention I didn’t know how to react to that and I did what I thought was the most reasonable I dated a girl a whole year almost . I was in love and with her words so was she but she mistreated me so we broke up . After a long while we did something again . That’s when my bestfriend told me they were f&cking I was so mad I didn’t know how to handle it and since all that I could never trust again I thought all girls are the same . And just fucked around

After a while I understood that after a year of building something of my own that could possibly make me money . I wanted to find a serious girl and I did she cheated on me .

After that I didn’t give up but something inside of me told me don’t give your full to anybody again . I would talk with girls but it wasn’t the same .

I came to the point right now that for me to get with a girl seriously I want her to be in my standards meaning pretty , be loyal and have similar personality .

Currently I’m with a girl that I have great time with but she’s not really my type she’s somewhere in between and I don’t want that that much . Maybe it’s because we’ve been away in vacation for a month but I don’t know what to do . Break up and just do something with any girl until I find the one ? Stay with her ? I don’t want to cheat on her I want to leave all that in the past . If you read all that thank you and I will read your advice .

I am 17 years old and I haven't been with any boy yet. Every time I go out with one, I think at first "wow, I really like this guy, something is definitely going to happen," but by the second time I'm seeing them or going out with them , I get so tired and just completely uninterested (and this makes me just dump them). I have even wondered, wow, is there something wrong with me? Am I the problem? Maybe I'm gay? The thing is, this didn't happen just once, but multiple times, and I see it keeps repeating... Please, if someone can help me with some advice or explain to me what is happening...

i (14 F) have been talking to this guy (14 M) for around a month. we both like each other. ive heard from one of his friends that he said hed date me if he got the opportunity.

im feeling really confident, and i do want to get in a relationship with him. i think i have to ask him though. i was thinking of doing it tomorrow

currently, its summer break. we havent hung out at all, we've just been texting daily for around a month. we usually text in the evening, until around 12.30-1 AM. i always get a goodnight text, without fail.

so if i ask him out, it is over text, unfortunately. i just dont know what to say. it feels weird saying "can i be your girlfriend" or "will you be my boyfriend". but, is that all i can say without it being even more corny?

I (17F) have never had a boyfriend or had any kind of romantic physicality ever. I’ve talked to guys and hung out with them and gone on dates but they never want to date and my suspicion is that due to my inexperience for my age I won’t find a boyfriend. I’m about to start my senior year of high school and I can’t help but feel like I’ve missed out on the experience of having a high school relationship and teenage love and all that. I’ve started thinking that I might just date whoever I can get even if it’s for a really short time just so I can get it over with. Honestly I just don’t know what to do and I just want to advice on what I could do differently to help my situation!!

how can i be a better gf man...i feel like i js exhaust my guy by asking for attention and shi.... what can i do to make him want me more than i want him LMAOOO

Sorry i know super embarrassing tmi if allowed like um ask

I’m 15 years old dude and my only ex is a 14f we had a great relationship and we ended on good terms we had our difficulties but we lasted 10 months it’s been almost a year from when we were together unluckily when we broke up i wasn’t in a good mental state since I had a big fight with my two best friends and cut ties with all my friends except her but I also avoided getting out with her too now it’s been a year and things have changed I have new friends (even if I don’t really like them as much as my previous group) she never was considered a pretty girl but i didn’t care even if I was aware that she had troubles with make up but now she got really good and she became a lot prettier and I never really got over her but I fear she did since she dumped me even if on good terms we don’t talk that much anymore since to cut ties with everyone i didn’t pick the same school as her like we were supposed to what do I do? I was thinking of text her on our anniversary to like reconnect and maybe hang out if she’s up to it?

okay so theres this guy, we were best friends until he shifted to another country and slowly we drifted apart. but after 2 years, this june we finally started calling and talking again. 3 days ago (Sunday) he asked if we could meet and so we both met alone at the mall, we roamed around, went for lunch together and went to the arcade.

Since we met after 3 years i bought him a shirt and he didnt buy me anything so he was js like "ohh you didnt have to. Now when we were roaming around we came across this really stupid but cute looking bag and started laughing at it. Now it was about 3 pm and i went back home first.

NOWWW in school, on TUESDAY so like 2 days later his friend comes up to me and gives me the SAME BAG saying "hey he asked me to give this to you"

Now i dont know how to feel, it could js be that he reciprocated for the shirt since he didnt buy me anything but still, he couldve js bought it for me when we saw it, but instead he went back to the shop bought it and didnt tell me.

PLEASEEE COMMENT WHAT U THINK, AM I JS GOING CRAZY OR IS THERE SMTH?

Basically I was dating this guy for a year everybody said that we looked so cute together and that we were such a cool couple. It was nice while it lasted but then we had to break up because of some issues. He got increasingly toxic over these past few months and would completely deteriorate my self esteem.

Now that we broke up, I kinda want ppl to know Abt it because I'm moving to a new school and stuff. I just want him in the past. But I DON'T wanna make it obvious that I want them to know, if uk what I'm talking about.

can u guys PLEASE gimme some tips on how to let other ppl know that we broke up. thankss

For context I am F17 and about to go into my senior year, I have always grown up on the heavier side. Not like super super big but I noticeably look bigger. Especially being around 5’9-5’10 I feel like my weight ‘fits me’ in a sense. I still have somewhat of a shape, but whenever people take picture of me I notice how like big I look, in certain clothes, in mirrors. At times I don’t hate it, like don’t care for it but there are times where I’m like… ugh.

Even in pictures with my skinnier friends it’s the worst because I can’t help but the notice the stark difference, I never post pictures of my full body because I’m just insecure about how I look, everything is just fuller.

I’ve tried going to the gym and eating better, I’ve dropped weight but I still look and feel the same. Last year I lost around almost 20 pounds but I still looked the same, I gained it all back… and still looked the same. It’s crazy because no matter if I eat more or less I stay in this like set weight. It’s insane. I don’t want to go into my senior year feeling super insecure about myself. It’s lowkey ruining my self esteem. :(

I honestly don't know how to process this situation, and I've been thinking about it constantly for the past month. I need an outside perspective because I'm too emotionally involved in it.

For context, there are four people involved:

A = me

B = my boyfriend

C = my best friend

D = my best friend's boyfriend

C and I have been best friends since school. B and D have also been best friends since childhood. All four of us went to the same school, so we've known each other for years.

C and D started dating before B and I even started talking to each other. I actually found out they were dating by seeing them kiss at school. She never told me, but I didn't confront her because I understood that her relationship was her private business.

Later, B and I started dating too, so eventually it became two best friends dating two other best friends.

However, over the course of our relationship, I started noticing a pattern that really bothered me.

Whenever the four of us were together, it often felt like C and D's relationship was prioritized over ours. They would want private time together, make out at school, and sometimes B would literally be asked to stand outside and keep watch while they were being intimate. Meanwhile, I would be sitting alone waiting for B.

There were also many situations where B and I wanted to spend some normal couple time together, but somehow C and D's plans always came first.

When we complained, we'd get responses like, "You two already get time together at coaching," or "Why are you making such a big deal out of one seat?"

There was one incident during a movie date that really stuck with me.

It was the first movie date for both couples. I have a strict family, and I specifically asked for a corner seat because if a family member happened to see me at the theatre, I could have gotten into serious trouble at home. C and D knew this.

But they took the corner seats because they wanted privacy and were making out during the movie. B and I had to sit farther away from each other.

I remember thinking that if someone from my family had seen me, I would have been the one dealing with the consequences, while they were prioritizing their own privacy.

There were many other incidents too. Once, D asked B to bring C to his house even though B had already planned to spend the day with me. Another time, D called B while B was with me and asked him to come pick C up and drop her somewhere.

There were also situations where C and D would spend their couple time together while sending B and me to do things for them, like ordering food.

Individually, some of these things may sound small. But they happened repeatedly, and over time I started feeling like our relationship was always the one being pushed aside.

Eventually, B and I stopped sharing details about our relationship with C and D. We still knew they knew we were dating, but we stopped telling them where we went, what we did, or sharing pictures from our dates.

The reason was that whenever they found out we'd gone somewhere, it would later be used against us:

"You two went there."

"You two already spend time together."

"You guys went out, so why do you need to sit together?"

We would go out maybe once every 2–3 months, but even that would later become an argument.

I also started feeling that C didn't value my opinion very much. If I told her something bothered me, she often wouldn't do anything about it if D disagreed. It felt like his opinion mattered more to her than mine.

There are many more incidents, but I don't want to write an entire history here.

Now comes the current situation.

C and D have been together for over two years. B and D still attend the same college. B is in first year and D is a senior.

About a month ago, I found out something about D that C doesn't know.

Because B and D are still best friends, B knows a lot about D's personal life. I happened to see conversations on B's phone that strongly suggested D has been cheating on C with multiple girls.

There was a girl from his class with whom he had sexual conversations and sexual activity over calls, and they apparently kissed in person.

There was another girl he was flirting with.

There was also a girl from our old school whom D apparently had a crush on. He contacted her through another private Instagram account and told her that she was "precious" to him, despite having C as his girlfriend.

From what I saw, this isn't just one questionable conversation. There appears to be a pattern of him talking to multiple girls behind C's back.

C has no idea.

And now I'm stuck.

My first instinct was that C deserves to know. If B were cheating on me, I would want my best friend to tell me.

But B is strongly against me telling her.

His concern isn't simply about protecting D.

D is B's senior in college, and B is genuinely afraid of retaliation. B has struggled socially in the past and was bullied during school. He's only recently started feeling better in college and has finally made some good friends.

He believes that if C finds out and they break up, D will blame B for exposing him and could make B's next three years of college miserable.

D also knows things about me and my family, including where my family's business is located. I'm scared that he could potentially involve my family, send people to harass me, or otherwise make things difficult for both of us.

Because of this, B made me promise not to tell C.

And now I feel horrible because I'm keeping something from my best friend.

At the same time, I don't know if C would even believe me. D is very good at manipulating her, and throughout their relationship I've seen her prioritize his opinions over mine. If I told her without solid evidence, I'm afraid she might believe him instead of me.

I also don't want to secretly investigate D, contact the girls, expose him publicly, or create some huge situation that could put B or me at risk.

So right now, I'm leaning toward staying silent.

Part of me thinks that C is responsible for her own relationship. If she doesn't notice what D is doing, that's ultimately something she has to figure out herself.

But another part of me keeps thinking:

"If I were in her position, wouldn't I want my best friend to tell me?"

And there's another uncomfortable layer to this.

I've been hurt by C for a long time. There have been many situations where I felt like she didn't consider my feelings, didn't value my relationship, or didn't treat me the way I treated her.

So I'm scared that some part of me is thinking:

"Why should I risk my boyfriend's safety for someone who wouldn't do the same for me?"

I don't want to make this decision out of revenge or resentment.

I genuinely want an outside perspective.

Should I tell C despite the potential consequences?

Should I stay completely out of it?

Is protecting B's college life a valid reason to stay silent?

Or is there some middle ground I'm not seeing?

I'm especially interested in hearing from people who have been in complicated friendship/relationship situations where telling the truth could also have consequences for the person who reveals it.

Context : i’ve always had more of a ‘thing’ towards girls who wear fur coats and fur sliders. pedicures and nails done aswell. if they don’t i’m not attracted to them. not proud of it but i just wanna ask if im weird lol.

There was a girl who came on here and said she’s 15 years old. I’ll add the post below basically saying that she was assaulted at 15. This man knew her age from her Instagram and even if he didn’t, she still told him her age so let’s establish that.

Then she lets us in and knows that she’s autistic which, if you have any cells that were worth working, you would understand being autistic comes with a very naïve world view which she also expressed.

She wasn’t a dumbass. She wasn’t stupid. She was misguided trying to make friends and as someone who isolate himself, I definitely understand what that’s like.

Adding to the fact that she lived in a religious household, she couldn’t confide in her parents because she said that her sister was shunned for being taken advantage of that man is a predator

Anyone saying he’s not as a part of the problem

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Hey everyone..

I need your help a 45 year old man is staring me from the last one month he check on me 2 times in the morning at my bus stop I'm a class 12 student..

Please suggest me what actions should I take against him so that my parents can't know about it..

every time i date a girl i always find another girl attractive and i try my best to stay loyal but one time i couldn’t and now i miss her, genuinely i dated really attractive girls but cant even seem to last a single month with them i went on a date with one of them and i messed it up and got broken up with 2 days later. i really want to have a long lasting relationship but i always find another girl attractive and cant stay in a relationship for a month. i dont know what to change (14 year old male)

Hello,

I am posting here because I am really lost and I would like to get advice from people older than me, who may have already been through this kind of situation

I am 16 and my girlfriend is 17, we have been together for almost 3 months, but we have known each other since March

We have already spent several days living together and it went really well, we get along extremely well, we have pretty similar habits and we both see ourselves living together

I know some people will probably think that at our age, 3 months of relationship is nothing, and I completely understand why

But on my side, I don't feel like this is just a simple "teenage crush" I have already been in other relationships before and this relationship feels really different to me I am convinced that she is the person I want to build something with, and she feels the same way, and on top of that I still have 1 year to see how our relationship develops before making a decision

The plan would be to move to Paris after I graduate from high school, she will be 18 and I will be 17 at that time

She lives in Paris and I live in the south of France, I could study in Paris in a program that interests me just as much as the ones I could have done in the south, so it's not like I would be giving up my studies or choosing a program I don't like just because of her

The idea would therefore be to study in Paris and, if everything is still going well in a year, get an apartment together

The problem is that my parents will probably never agree with this idea, especially because I will still be 17 when I leave

So I have a lot of questions : do you think this is a bad idea at our age ? Does having a year to prepare really change anything ? Can living together at 17-18 actually work ? What are the difficulties that people don't necessarily think about when they idealize this kind of project ? And most importantly, what do you wish you had known before making a similar decision ?

I am not necessarily looking for people to tell me "go for it" or "absolutely don't do it"

I would really like to hear experiences and advice from more mature people, even if it means telling me things I don't want to hear

I am just asking that nobody insults me for no reason, even if I am a teenager who looks like he wants to make an immature decision, I am here because I need help and not to get shit on (I can still tell the difference between negative criticism and pointless insults)

Thank you to everyone who takes the time to answer

Summary: I'm 16 and my girlfriend is 17, and we've been together for almost 3 months. We want to move in together in Paris in about a year, when I'll be 17 and she'll be 18. I could study in Paris in a program that interests me just as much as the ones available near me, so I'm not giving up my future just for the relationship. My parents will probably strongly oppose the idea, and I'm feeling lost about whether this is actually a good decision at our age. I'm looking for honest advice and experiences from more mature people, including the potential problems we might not be thinking about.