r/AskTeenAdvice

Hi everyone, I need some outside perspective on a situation with my dad.

My childhood nanny reached out and wants to take me out to catch up. She lived with my family in our house and took care of me for about 3 or 4 years when I was younger. We haven't seen each other in years, though we still chat online once in a while for birthdays and christmas.

She lives in far away now, but she offered to drive all the way out to my area so we can hang out. The problem is, my dad is strictly refusing to let me go. He says it’s been too long, he doesn't feel comfortable, and he doesn't trust her or her husband because of the distance and time that has passed.

I really want to go see her since she was a huge part of my childhood, I love her, but I’m stuck.

Okay so to be brief the other day i was arguing with a few guys in my class we are 15/16 and we started to discuss sex topics, and they started to say that we are already “old enough” to have sex. I said i wouldnt have sex now and neither would i in a year, so they came to the point that if at this age you dont have sex after dating a person for more than 8 months then it means you dont trust them enough and you shouldnt have a relationship (all this guys are virgins and some of them havent even had their first kiss). So is it really like that? I feel like its not and that at this age it shouldnt be something expected.

(text messages attached) so, I (15F) am talking to someone (21M) I don't know his name so I will call him max

this is the first time

this is the second time

this is the third time

max keeps asking to see my face, but we have only talked to each other for one month

I don't know what to do, I keep trying to be nice, but I just don't know

I ( male freshman) have a crush on this girl (freshman) but when I try to more than a few words, I freeze up witch is weird because I’m an extrovert, I need advice, how do I not freeze up and how do I not make myself look bad? I’m trying to get her number before my school gets out on June 11th.

Help please, it's pretty awkward

What should I do in this kind of situation?

For context, I am a female and I’m gaining advice on a male. We have two years between us.

I (f) have recently realised that I like my friend. A couple weeks back, I would occasionally sit with him and we would have long conversations about practically everything. However, we have been talking a lot more recently. I’ve always had a thing for him, if I’m being honest.

We’ve been talking pretty much daily IRL and online (I message first but sometimes he does too) and we have very long conversations about pretty much everything. I always catch him staring at me from across the room and when I look at him he doesn’t look away, and just continues giving me that intense eye contact. There’s definitely tension there, I can’t lie. Last week, we were sat opposite eachother and he was trying to play footsie with me (he eventually moved his feet back when I was struggling to get my words out because of how flustered I was). In addition to this, he kept on fidgeting in his seat (getting up and down once every 2 minutes), tried to flex him going to the gym and he was mirroring my behaviour.

However, here is the catch.

He keeps on bringing up this other girl he’s “talking to” online. They have been on and off for the last couple of months, have never met in person ( although they are 30 mins away from eachother ) and she is my age. I almost think he’s doing it to make me jealous but I’m not too sure.

After another long winded conversation last Saturday, I fully opened up about everything (which is crazy coming from someone as detached as me). He seemed to care and was very supportive about things, but since that conversation we haven’t spoken much since. I dont know what to do, as i dont want to come off as desperate and needy. Please help me and give me advice on what to do next, because i really like him and there’s definitely some chemistry there! Is he just being nice, or is there more to this? I kind of feel like ass as I’ve just opened myself up to somebody for once.

Update (as of today) : I tried to message him yesterday but he didn’t hold conversation, but he liked my birthday instagram post. I also believe he spoke about the girl again today. I am very confused lol.

What should I do about my feelings for him, or is he just not that into me?

There are never any oportunities to talk to her and even if there were I don't know what to say.

ok guys so im 17f and im like kinda genuinely probably the most awkward person alive. i have no friends that arent my bf because im SCARED... bht theres two people i talk to in my classes that are like super cool people and i think we vibe but i genuinely have no idea how to ask them to like. hangout outside of school. and what would we even do if we hungojt outside of school...... guys help pls

ok so there’s this guy in my class i have the fattest crush on him omg. and we have the same interests and i feel like he’s out of my league but then again i feel like we’re the same. so anyway i kinda feel like he notices me but idk. we’ve had little interactions in class but i DO NOT talk to him at all. I also requested to follow him on ig recently and maybe not even a full hr later he accepted my request & actually followed me back. He does watch my stories.

sometimes i’ll see him like looking at me when i get up to walk to get something or coming back to my seat, it has been multiple times where he would look at me and we’ve made eye contact a couple of times and he would just smile at me and i smile back ofc. but we don’t talk but he talks to the guy that sits beside him during class sometimes.

anyway today was the last day of school but ive been seeing him A LOt more lately. but today in class it was just me and him, other dude wasn’t there but like usually he puts in his airpods but i noticed today he didn’t, like he genuinely looked more open today than any other day.

but also like when i would look up at something out the blue to kinda test him i noticed that he would also look up at like what im looking at too. i can’t say that he was looking at me for CERTAIN but it kinda felt like he was. i also will say i was leaving class hella today and it’s kinda like he looked more at me than usual. esp when we first both got to class. But OVERALL sometimes when he fixes his hair it’s like im there 99% of the time and i decided to look at him when he was fixing his hair once and i caught him looking at me already and i js looked away…

but also im very quiet in class but today i actually did talk and today and its like he noticed me more when i talked. we did make eye contact together like in proximity and lowk kinda just smiled but didnt talk. but i will say like when i noticed he was leaving class he was lowk looking in my direction even when i acted like i wasnt looking at him.
HELP. i honestly dont know what to think. HES ALSO PRETTY quiet too btw he does have friends yeah ppl know him but not hella people, but he’s still pretty quiet.

I have been liek 5 '6 or '7 ish since I was 14 M ,, right now I m 17 , same height my dad is liek 5 10 and mom is 5 2 ,, do I even hope I ll be 5 8 or 9 ish 😍😭

Ok so for context the real reason why I want to sneak out is because I’m not allowed to go to anyone’s house at all.

Today I really wanted to hang out at my friend’s place and I asked my mom and she was asking me “what’s her address? Are her parents there? Does she have any brothers? How long are you gonna be there? I’m gonna drop you off and pick you up and stay with you. Most of the time at her House ” And when I answered all of them except the last one I said no because my friend was going through a rough time and I wanted to be there for her without my mom being there talking with her fucking grandma because her mom usually isn’t home much. I’m 15 btw. So I lied that it was a bday hangout and she told me to send the invitation and get gifts for her. I told her that won’t be necessary and after all that she didn’t let me go. It’s not just that one time. I always want to go to the mall with my friends and the only time I was able to I could only spend an hour there and the last 10 minutes of the time I had there she was spamming my message and calling me and yelling at me even though I wasn’t on speaker my friend next to me heard everything cause she was so loud. She only lets me hang out with people at my house nothing else, but the thing is that my house is very and I mean very open. My door doesn’t have a lock on it and my basement doesn’t have a door. The only room is my bathroom and that at least has a lock but my walls are super thin and my parents always listen in my conversations and ask about them later even though there bedroom is upstairs and mine is downstairs.

So I was thinking that I could sneak out by going downstairs and opening the basement window and sneaking out like that. (I don’t have an underground basement) lemme know if you guys have any tips! I just wanna go to my friend’s house and get stoned (jk) I also want to turn off my location but without notifying them.

Me(F15) just moved to a new town and i met this incredible guy here in my school he is older than me and he is in may school we will call him Daniel, this guy is
so attractive and he openly flirts with me.

But not so long ago i discovered he has a girlfriend because i fond his instagram and there it was. THE FRIKIN PP WAS WITH THE GIRLFRIEND. I felt so bad in that moment but i felt like he was just someone i could not get enough from which made it worse for me.

Mind you am normally a very mature girls girl and i have been in this situation before and i have told the girlfriends, but this guy has something that makes me almost addicted to him. But i have been questioning a lot of things lately, we haven’t addressed the fact that he has a girlfriend, and all my friends tell me that “ you just have one life” so i feel like i need some stranger help me.

I have gone thou a rough patch and i have been SA for a long time and this has not help with my self love so i have been looking at my self in a lot worse way and it has worsened my problem with this thing, so it has been really complicated for me to manage this also given to my very unstable mental health, i just need help to solve this and get better. ( This is not at all to defend my actions whatsoever).

I am posting this because I genuinely have been haunted about this and even thou I haven’t met the girl i just can’t help but feel guilty for her and she seems nice. The last straw came today when he posted a story with her and they seemed happy. A total opposite of what i have been telling myself, that they are in a bad relationship and he is not happy there. I need help RAW JUDGMENT. Thank you.

Sorry for the bad spelling. English is my second lenguaje and and am 15

Hey! I’ve started talking to this girl for about a week now. Schools about to get out in a few days, so I was thinking of asking her out when we get out of school. She has expressed to me how she really wants to go see the Micheal Jackson movie, but I’ve always been told that movies on a first date is not a good idea. So, any cheap ideas for a first date 😭

I’ve only ever really been on one other date and it was to a school play. What I was thinking for this, assuming we keep talking and things go good, was going to get ice cream and mini golf, but that was before she suggested she wanted to see the movie. So idk, maybe a movie and ice cream.

My online friend is 16 and I am a teen too. Recently a fandom my friend is in has made a slip up on the lore or something? And my friend said its game over for them cause the fictional character they fantasied about in a 18+ manner may not be an adult at all and instead might be 13-14 years old. To be clear, my friend did not know the age of the character beforehand as it has never been confirmed and still yet to be confirmed. They said they need to know for sure or they will lose their mind. The confirmed canon stuff won't be out until next month so I don't know how much of the time during the day will they spend on trying to get certainty.

On top of that, this has not been the first time they have freaked out this bad over moral related stuff (especially in fandom spaces where stuff is ambiguous at times.) so I think this was like the final straw or something...

Anyways, now my friend says that they deserve to die for it and that if they do off themself before it actually gets confirmed as true (it has not been yet) then I should rejoice that the world has lost a creep. And if it does come true then they said that it might be the last day I would hear from them ever again. Im scared that they might actually do it and I can't do much from here.

What do I even do?

This is mainly a next year me problem bc of prom but I literally am alone, I've never dated. Heck I probably don't even have any close guy friends. And what makes it worse is that literally everyone in my grade has a boyfriend. So do I just tough it out next year, ditch prom or try and find someone within a year!?TT

(NSFW talk!!!), so my mom lost a fiance of 11 years whom was my step dad since I was 4, 2 years ago, now she was fine on her own for a bit and recently shes started posting weird sexual photos of herself on facebook, only fans to get "money"

well 2 months ago she met some dude that lives in Indiana and flew him out after 2 weeks, had him stay here for days, even let him use my private bathroom in my room before and let him clean it while I was gone AND LIED when I confronted her

besides that.. I got a text from a family member letting me know they saw videos of my mom and her bf having sex on my floor and in my room!!!! now I havent confronted them about this and I think I'll talk to my mom when I can talk to her alone especially since that dude lives here now but another family member thinks shes doing it for some age play type thing but thats weird and so so weird for her to send it to people who pay for it???

am I overreacting?? everyone im talking too is like "oh yeah thats gross just sanitize everything" which yeah thats the most i can do till im able to move out but why is nobody freaking out about this like I am???

also it explains the fact that one day i came home from my aunts with my CUTE underwear all over the floor and my mom pretending she had no clue why

im so grossed out I dont even know what to do i dont even have a job to save up money to move

I’m 15m and I am trying to find a girl but the same stuff keeps happening like a girl seems like she’s in to me then she asks wyll and I show her and then I get instantly blocked like what is it am I ugly idk I just would like some advice

I am 15F ( so still quite young,i know)and I hear all my friends talk about relationships, boys, etc. I dont have any specific traits( physical appearance or personality) that necessarily stop me from having a boyfriend but I just simply don't want to have one because I feel like it is guaranteed to end as a breakup. I've heard people say things like"you're young, do it for the experience, do it just to feel loved" but the idea of being loved in that way only makes me think about the loss I will experience and sadness it will bring me. My idea of a fun teenagehood is not being emotionally vulnerable or experiences that will make me depressed when thinking about in the future.But at the same time i feel like I'm missing out and don't want to be 50 years old looking back and regretting being alone because of my cowardness .Am I right to think like this? I'm not trying to sound miserable but just want to hear a different perspective.

me 17m and my boyfriend 16m (were both in the same grade) just started dating a month ago and life has been so much better.The problem is the fact im older taller and heavier and yet hes still have this control over me (espcially when he does the put my leg over yours thing) and personally i like the feeling of being owned like there saying yeah thats my man im a black male and scared of what i should do i dont want people to judge me because im older then him or something like that should i be acting more mature i dont even know what im scared especially on what is appropriate to say and what is not

for context im 15, almost 16. my mom almost never lets me go out alone, and if i do, she gets extremely mad. mind you, im not even allowed to go to the shop near our house.. this summer i would love to go out for walks and enjoy my life since ive finally got a little better from depression, and i wanna enjoy my teen years a bit and do a lot of stuff (nothing dangerous ofc). i cant really understand why my mom doesnt let me go out on my own, but i can tell she probably thinks ill get r@ped, killed, kidnapped or whatever. i dont know what to do to convince her because its really hard to change her mind, but we dont live in such a dangerous country even, im a responsible girl, i dont talk to strangers etc.

any advice on what to do?? she will probably only let me go out when i turn 18 but i genuinely dont want to spend 2 more years locked at home😓