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We have this friend group together with 2 more boys and 2 girls from another place. We have had problems in our relationship regarding one of the girls, I realized that he talk a lot with her, almost everyday, that made me feel weird and insecure because he never had a relationship like that with another girl other than me. I told him the long calls he made with her made me uncomfortable because it was something that created intimacy and he told me he wouldn't do it again, still, I wasn't felling confident about it and I went through his phone (I'm not proud about it) and found out he was still making this calls, I even saw one from the day after I mentioned them. When I confronted him about it, he told me that it was because he thought it was stupid that the calls bothered me because they were just friends and thats what friends do. We talked and I said that he could do anything he wants, that the calls weren't a problem anymore. So I can still see that he talks and calls her daily, he makes longer calls with her than with me sometimes, and she tells him stuff she doesn't even tell me, even though I'm her friend too

So last night me and my boyfriend talked about how the tournament was. He told me that one night, the whole friend group was in his room (they stayed at the same hotel) and they had a challenge to see who could stay awake the longest. The girls went to their room at 4 am and he stayed with the other boys till 5 am when they had to left. That's when he said he went to the girls room alone and asked me if it bothered me, I told him that yes, it obviously bothered me, he got mad and refused to tell me anything else about it and said it would be better to talk about it another day.

Am I exaggerating for acting like that? Is this normal in a relationship?

Im a decent looking guy and I’m not an introvert. I’ve talked to 3 girls but it’s never serious. I feel like all these boys that I hang out with have gf’s and they’re always around girls. I have no friends that are girls and I rarely hang out with them. there have been a bunch of people that have told me I’m cute or that they want my number, but I feel like the girls at my school avoid me. I was the first freshman to make varsity soccer for 6 years and I finished my freshman year with a 3.954 gpa. what should I do?

I’m 18F, my boyfriend is 18M, and this girl is also 18F. We all go to the same school and we’re in our fourth year now.
Basically, this girl has been bothering me since first year. It’s not even just about my boyfriend. She has a pattern of trying to get close to or “take” people I care about, especially my friends, and now it’s happening with him too.
My boyfriend and I have only been together for a month, but we were friends before that, and he was in love with me for three years. Pretty much everyone in our class knew that. Even before we got together, this girl was weird about him, and now she’s been calling him regularly and trying to involve herself with him more.
What makes this so frustrating is that this isn’t some one-time thing. She’s done this before with other people I’m close to, which is why I feel like this is partly about him, but also partly about me. I genuinely can’t tell if she actually likes him or if she just has some issue with me and keeps trying to go after people I care about.
I want to make it clear that this is not about me not trusting my boyfriend, because I do trust him. My issue is with her and the fact that I’ve had to deal with this kind of behavior from her for years now, and I honestly can’t deal with it anymore.
I don’t know what to do to make her leave me, my boyfriend, and honestly the people I care about in general alone. I want to tell her to back off, but I don’t know if I should confront her directly, ignore it, or do something else.
If this isn’t the right subreddit for this, sorry, I
just genuinely didn’t know where else to post it.

TLDR: A girl at my school has been trying to get close to people I care about since first year, and now she’s doing the same with my boyfriend by calling him regularly. I trust my boyfriend, but I’m exhausted by her behavior and want to know how to make her leave me and the people I care about alone.

So in two days from now, I’m supposed to meet up with this guy I met on Snapchat. We met a few days ago and he’s been telling me how he wants to meet up. I really do want to meet up and all, but I’m just afraid on how to do so. Idk what I would tell my mom, she’s not too strict in general but I don’t know how she would react to this.

I had a plan on just telling my mom I met him through a friend and that he moved halfway through high school, and that he is just visiting his friends and family. (I have more stuff to say but this is the basics)

And I’ve never gotten into a guys car before, so I’m obviously very nervous.

TLDR: what do I tell my parents when I want to meet up with a guy I met on Snapchat

(Idk if this impacts the story but we r both in high school and we r the same age)

Yes this correlates to my last post, luckily all the comments said I shouldn’t meet up with this guy, and I’ve decided that’s the best choice.

(For context, I was originally gonna meet up with this guy I met on Snapchat, but I realize now that is very dangerous🥲)

So now I’m gonna need help on how to cut this guy off. Do I just

-Ghost him
-Explain to him I’m not comfortable with doing certain things

ty to those who told me not to meet up with him, u guys prob saved me from who knows what😪

15f My parents are saying I need to find something to do during summer vacation. They won’t take me to a job. I asked them what I should do a they said I to use my time better???? Tf? It’s not my fault school is out so why am I supposed to figure out how to keep my self busy? I’m just like alr whatever

I (17F) have been with my boyfriend (17M) for a year. He’s my best friend, we communicate well, and he’s supported me through some of the hardest moments of my life.

I’m Sri Lankan, he’s half Filipino and half Serbian. Family and background matter a lot in my culture. I’m an only child, my father passed away when I was 10, I’ve lived in Switzerland since I was 2, and I don’t have much family here. My mom remarried a Swiss man. My boyfriend is also an only child, his parents are divorced, they’re less financially fortunate than us, and most of his family lives abroad.

My mother dislikes him because of his background, appearance, money situation, and because he’s shy around her. She constantly makes me feel ashamed for loving him, even though he has always been gentle, patient, and kind to me. He’s been there for me through fights with my parents and nights where I cried myself to sleep.

I try to be a good daughter. I do well in school, stay out of trouble, and don’t smoke or drink. I don’t need my mom to adore my boyfriend, but it hurts that she’s never happy for me and keeps judging someone who treats me well.

I still have two years before university, but my mother wants to plan my future without him. She wants to send me to another country and says if I stay in Switzerland, I can’t move in with him. By then I’ll be 19 and legally an adult, but I’m scared she’ll use financial support to control me.

When I tell her it’s my life, she jokes, “I get to choose, you don’t. I raised you,” but it doesn’t feel like a joke.

The ironic part is that when she met my stepfather, she was divorced and 26, while he was 19, had just finished school, and worked at McDonald’s. Yet she judges my relationship because of status and money.

I don’t know what to do. I love my boyfriend, but my mother’s constant disapproval is making me question everything.

I don't know how to react.

I am 17 years old, and my girlfriend is 16. We are in a long-distance relationship.

My girlfriend and I have been dating since December 25, 2025, and during this entire time, I haven't gone out with friends even once. We are in a long-distance relationship, and I don't have any friends here. However, in two weeks, on my way to visit my girlfriend, I’m stopping by a major city where a close friend of mine—whom I’ve known for over 12 years—is coming with his girlfriend. They will be there for two days and invited me to hang out with them. In general, I'm going to spend about a week together with my girlfriend. I really want to go out with my friends, especially since the last time I actually went out to hang out was back in September 2025.

My girlfriend says it's obvious that my friends are more important to me than she is, and that's why I'm staying. This makes me feel so guilty.

What should I do? Please help me with some advice!

i’m 15 turning 16 in a couple weeks in 5,3 all my classmates tower over me girls don’t want short guys i eat protein sleep a lot do masai jumps drink milk work out nothing worked what do i do or what do buy idk if i hit puberty yet prolly not my voice is still very high pitched no facial hair or armpit or leg hair im smooth everywhere accept my head i really wanna confess to this girl i like but she will probably say no because im short i really don’t know what im doing wrong am i stressed or something??? and i dont understand because my mother is 6,0 and my dad is 6,3 you’d expect someone with genetics like me to be tall like i dont know anymore man please anyone help me please please please

I’ll make this quick

I(16m) was with this girl at her house on her bed while my boy and girl he knew were on the other

I thought the she was with was throwing hints so I tried to advance

This morning I was told by my buddy that I made her uncomfortable

I feel like a grapist , I cried this morning in the shower for about 20 minutes

Idk what to do

In my last post, I detailed some reasons why in this new school year I won't have any friends. Currently, I have never made a friend without someone approaching me and after all of my friends left and rumors are being spread about me, I will have lots of difficulty in my junior year of high school.

My question is how do I make friends how do I approach them when do I approach what do I say how do I express emotions without seeming too emotional but at the same time not seeming emotionless. I have a bad reputation at school because of my appearance and lack of friends. I have never been in a friendship for longer than a year for many reasons but before leaving high school, I would like to make more friends.

So I want to find a parter, and ita summer break.

I thought about going to baseball games or other things like sports Parks, etc. Any suggestions on cold approaches or places to meet new people?

I 16M am currently in 11th grade. There is a guy from our class who is friends with all seniors even in 10th grade. So this story is from my 10th grade. The seniors and they have a big group they all sit together and pick one by one kids and ig trouble them. One day they tried to call me saying "oye idhar aa" I ignored them and went and then a senior came and personally came to take me there. There they made me sit in the middle of all of them and started calling for the the biggest guy they said "tu bhot chota he, xyz(the biggest guy) ko bulao" but then suddenly the bell rung aur me Bach Gaya. Now in 11th grade those seniors are gone but we still have 12th graders and the guy from my class is friends with them too. They were calling me over yesterday I ignored them again. I am a really introverted, shy, nerdy guy but I have plenty of friends and this is being done while I'm with my friends and like 60-100 students(in the ground). What should I do I'm worried, it might not seem like a big deal but to me it is.

I (16f) have had various people whisper mean things to their friend about me during class. Everytime that happens I freeze, I feel stuck inside my head and stay silent. In the few times I got the nerve to say something, my words are weak, even if I practice it a hundred times, its like all the power is sucked out and my confidence is shot. What makes things extra difficult is the environment. For me I struggle with breaking the rules. I am so scared of the consequences in the moment that I have never stood up for myself in class. Then I go home angry at myself months even years later thinking about the things I could have said or could say in the future. I want to be able to stand up for myself when nobody will, I want to be strong and confident and make them fill like sht for being a btch when I am just trying to do my work. I want to be able to improvise smack top or be able to shut someone up (without violence). So I ask again, how do I stand up for myself.

Мне 15.

Я встречаюсь со своей девушкой (ей 14) и недавно у нас была дата уже в месяц, я очень сильно люблю её, но в последнее время я вижу , что что то происходит, она щас в поездке с родителями, и я замечаю изменение в ее поведении. Мы стали чуть меньше общаться с каждым днем , она как будто закрылась или что то такое , на мои вопросы "что случилось? " ответы чаще всего "ничего" или "все хорошо" . Скажите , это со мной что то не так или мне готовиться к чему то??

P.S.:я безумно её люблю, и готов быть с ней до конца своих дней....

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So for context me and my boyfriend are living in my parents house no job yet trust me we have been looking, and we are graduating next year I have no time, money or anything for a baby so ik what I need to do but my mom wants me to talk to my boyfriend about it what's their to discuss I'm not keeping this baby

Hi everyone,

I (16F) have been homeschooled since first grade. now i'm finally going to public school and i'm worried about building friendships/relationships with people and fitting in. i know there's a well earned stigma around homeschooled kids and i want so badly to break out of it and be able to make friends without coming of desperate or needy. I also really want a boyfriend. and for the million and one people who are going to tell me i don't need a boyfriend to be happy and i'm only sixteen. TRUST ME I KNOW. i don't NEED one i WANT one. anyways any advice is welcome and encouraged!! thanks!

I am 17M and I feel depressed over this girl who is my friend ( Please bear with me, This might be a bit long

So, last year, we met each other again after a 2 year gap since she left to another school when high school began. We weren't that great friends but still we used to help each other. It was very slow and tough at the beginning after seeing each other after a long time but eventually things were in track. We see each other after school for 5 mins and talk about a lot of stuff. It a casual friendship and she never looked in that kind of way.

We are going to finish high school this year and since school reopened, things were going fine for the first 1-2 weeks. One day, I took a day off and saw her walking. It was like unusual after a long time she walked away quickly from me ( I usually wait for a while for her to come if I take a day off). I guessed she was in a hurry but since then, she did not speak a word to me. The next week again, she walked away very fast from me. I asked and she said it was getting late. (The day before, I had seen her coming but after that one day she walked away, I did not mind. I thought to give her space. I guess it was stupid looking back)..

The silence started to become unbearable after a point. I asked her if she had any problem and if she was safe but she denied it and was okay. But, this week, whenever I was around her after school, the same happened again. No words. No turning back. She just walked away like I didn't even exist. She stopped minding me while in school as well.

I feel tempted to ask if there is any problem but I guess I won't be getting any answers. And, I am a loner most of the time and she is one of the few friends I care and love for. I don't know if I have said or did anything that have hurt her. IDK man it just hurts inside. Now, should I ask if there is anything wrong I did to her but I don't want her to feel obliged that she should be my friend. I am going to say a sorry the day I see her and might have to let her go. I think it's over.

Thanks for reading this far. Any advice will be appreciated.