AITAH for telling a mutual friend of my former friend’s girlfriend that he was cheating on her?
I have known someone who we’ll call Ruben for about a year. Before our friendship even reached a whole year, we had a falling out over me choosing to continue my friendships with people who have never been fond of Ruben, leading him to become angry with me and cut me off.
Ruben has been dating a girl who we’ll call Olivia for a few months now, and they have broken up a couple of times in between that time. Their relationship has become something so drama filled that most people in their lives tend to just step to the side and allow it to run its course.
However, a mutual friend of me and Ruben, who we’ll call John, recently told me that he caught Ruben kissing a girl. Not only was this girl not Olivia, she was one of her closest friends. After the pair were caught, they begged John to promise not to tell anyone and explained that they “were only doing this because they liked each other a lot“ even though Ruben still loved Olivia.
After John told me about this, we discussed whether or not we should tell Olivia, since she was really in love with Ruben and we felt really bad, but neither of us felt close enough to her for her to believe us.
So, instead I told a mutual friend of me and Olivia, who we’ll call Riley, explaining that they'd been caught kissing and that John had promised not to tell anyone. I told her because I knew she was close enough to Olivia to bring it up without me having to.
What I didn’t expect is that Riley actually ended up talking to Ruben about it instead. And he, of course, simply got defensive and angry saying that people needed to stop spreading rumors and he loved his girlfriend too much to do anything like that.
He then texted John about it, asking where Riley could’ve heard this. John then got upset at me for telling Riley, saying that I needed to speak to Ruben and fix it by lying and saying that I heard it from someone else.
AITAH?