Advice for the unholy Christian
I need relationship advice. Ever since I gave my life to Christ at age 19, I haven’t had sex. I don’t wish to do it again until marriage – part of this is for obvious reasons regarding Christianity, but an equal part is also just that I take intimacy really seriously and don’t want to do it again until I’m married to a person. I have had sex before, in past relationships, when I was 17 and 18 years old.
I just recently started dating a boy (officially), and we haven’t really had this talk yet/talked about past relationships at all. He is a devout Christian, virgin, and just extraordinary.
I’m worried that when he finds out I’m not a virgin, he is going to be upset/it will be awkward. I know that the simplest answer to this problem is that if he isn’t OK with it, we’ll break up and that’s fine, but I’m just wondering if anyone has any advice on how to navigate this.
My last 2 boyfriends haven’t had a problem with the celibacy thing, they are also Christians, who have made similar mistakes and are re-waiting until marriage. I just hate that they’re such a stigma around re-waiting – obviously I can’t change my past, and the decisions that I made, but I just hate that it could cost me this relationship.