r/christiandatingadvice

I've been in the dating scene a while, and it's so difficult. Not only do I have to dodge creeps, but men faking being Christian.

I want to be married to a man of God eventually, so I asked on this sub so I can get advice from women married to men of God (they've been around them enough to know), or even men if you're a man of God and could offer some tips?

Also how to tell quick if they're faking. Some of them are too good at it 😭

Four years together and his final message was “I will see you in my prayers.” SIR, WHAT?! 💀🙏🏻

I was recently discarded after FOUR YEARS, and this man’s final message to me was:

" will see you in my prayers.”

EXCUSE ME?! 😭💀

For context, he was a very devout Catholic man. Church every Sunday, strong faith, the whole package. And honestly, his faith was one of the things I genuinely liked about him, especially because I’m Catholic too.

But apparently, after four years together, I got the spiritual equivalent of a corporate layoff email. No real closure, just a one-way ticket to the prayer department. 🙏🏻😂

I already know avoidant discard is brutal, but adding God into the breakup like you’re handing someone a complimentary Bible verse with their emotional damage is WILD.

Like, sir, are we breaking up or are you assigning me a novena? Am I your ex or a prayer intention? Should I light a candle, or should I just accept that I’ve been transferred to the Lord’s department? 😭

And that’s what gets me. You can be a devout Catholic and still be human, still hurt people, and still handle relationships badly. Faith doesn’t automatically make someone emotionally mature. But acting all holy while leaving someone devastated, with a religious-sounding goodbye instead of an honest conversation? That hits differently.

Has anyone else dated a SUPER religious avoidant? Because I swear, getting emotionally discarded is already a mindfuck, but getting spiritually ghosted on top of it feels like a whole new level of Catholic trauma. 💀😂

Please tell me I’m not the only one. What is the most unhinged, holier-than-thou, or spiritually confusing thing your religious avoidant ex ever said to you? I need stories. 🍿

24F in UK, losing my miiiiiind - i am fairly alternative with dyed hair and bold tattoos and a big metal fan but also love Jesus so i stick out like a sore thumb in both church & the alt scene (nobody cares, i have such lovely friends, but nobody gets all of it)

i have struggled all my life with not belonging so my absolute biggest want is just someone who gets both “sides” of my life (they are not sides, they are just part of me, but i sometimes feel like they’re contradictory when they’re not)

plssss are there any stories of happy alt Christian couples or people who are in the same boat because, i know this is not a unique to me issue but it really feels like it, and how on earth did you meet your person!

If christian have girlfriend/boyfriend which no 🔞 relationship, does after break up , can she/he have another boyfriend / girlfriend? I'm asking about that because lately I desires to fall in love but I'm scare to fall , because I'm scared of breaks up.

I pray weekly over us and our relationship. We’ve been dealing with difficulty surrounding his insecurity and inability to trust and while I have been trying to remain patient it is now to the point where nearly everything is interpreted as a personal slight which creates consistent issues. I empathize but it feels like his inner turmoil is spilling outward and flooding every area of our relationship.

I recently prayed for “new experiences” that bring me closer to the vision God has for my being/life. I genuinely meant new friendships, opportunities, responsibilities etc. This was a prayer for alignment I have spoken over him many times. But he was deeply bothered by this, calling me wicked and stating this revealed the “truth of my character.” Am I wrong for thinking he is being unreasonable here?

Im struggling with feeling like patience and empathy are required to love someone well, but also feeling like continuing to validate his emotions is holding him back