u/Complex_Nothing_2811

my girlfriend has bpd and has been through an abusive childhood and relationship before me, she often tells me that she feels most of nothing alot of the time, and other times she says that she doesnt love me whilst some other times she says that she loves me alot, im assuming this is splitting but whenever this does happen she says that its not splitting.

how can i help her start to 'feel' things again?

how can i identify that she is splitting?

what are some things i can do to help her feel better when she is splitting?