Therapist was offended I called myself disabled
So this is more a vent but I don’t NOT want advice/ I hope I’m not using the post flair wrong?
I’ve been seeing my therapist for almost a year now and he’s honestly great. He’s the one who diagnosed both the adhd and autism and actually took my concerns regarding neurodiversity seriously and didn’t try to write them off as just me being “sensitive” because of giftedness (which previous therapists did)
I am low support needs most of the time, but he acknowledges my struggles and doesn’t try to say stuff like autism/ adhd is a superpower.
But. A few weeks ago in a session I called myself disabled. Not in a negative way (because disabled is not a bad word); simply as a descriptor that was fitting in context. He was weirdly offended by this? I asked if he didn’t consider autism and adhd disabilities, and he said yes he did, but not always, since there could be perfect circumstances where adhd and autism wouldn’t be disabling (show me these circumstances please), but he didn’t want me insulting myself. For added context, in my language the term “disabled” is, in everyday language, used as a synonym for “dumb” (I don’t do this obviously, but it does generally have more of a negative connotation than in English I think, it’s like the r-slur). I clarified that I simply used it as an descriptor and didn’t say it in a derogatory way and then switched to saying “disabled by my audhd” (which is different gramattically in my language, idk how to translate it properly) for the rest of the session, which he fully accepted.
Idk how to address this with him. It’s been a few weeks but this still bugs me. Any ideas how to open that conversation up? I have a hard time expressing how things make me feel without going into monologue about the underlying societal framework, but maybe that’s needed here? But maybe I shouldn’t address it because I feel like I already said something about it and that might have been enough? Idk, help.