My Police Officer Husband & His Coworker Crush
I’m a 32 year female and my husband is a 30 year old male. He recently switched careers to become a police officer. He’s 1.5 years in and works third shift for a large department in a city. He has a coworker (26 years old female) who he talks to frequently. She seems to have a crush on him (long eye contact, exaggerated texting, asking to get breakfasts after shifts are finished, extreme friendliness, etc.). Out of everyone else in his graduating class, he’s the closest with her. Recently he shared that they are considering riding in the same car together while on shift. In his department about 1/10 officers ride in a car together, while all others ride in their own car. The benefits are companionship and safety. You are also frequently going to the same places anyway. I’ve voiced my support of this, but also shared I’m aware she has a crush on him. He acknowledged that. Two months ago he shared that he also had a crush on her.
He reinforced that he thinks I’m more attractive and wouldn’t do anything, that it’s an innocent liking and that he respects her. If they ride in the same car together that means they would be in constant contact and long opportunities to talk and get to know each other late at night. I’d consider myself confident in myself and I’m confident in his integrity, so I appreciate him bringing this option to my attention. How could I navigate this concern? Has anyone had a husband who was a police officer in a similar situation?
Tl;dr my husband (police officer) wants to be paired with his co-worker on all shifts. They both have a crush on each other.