My (F 18) close friend (F 18) told me she had a crush on me. Please Help!
My friend told me she had a crush on me tonight and I’m typing this while she’s asleep. I’ve never thought about actively pursuing her but the thought of it has passed my mind, I am bi so that’s not the problem. The problem is that she’s said something racist to one of my close friends before,( an edgy humor joke) and all of my friends validly don’t like her. So 1. I don’t want to be someone dating a racist and excusing their actions (though i don’t believe she’s a RACIST if that makes sense.) and 2. I don’t want to be the person whose friends hate their partner. Although I do like her and she’s an amazing person in every other way, I don’t want anyone (especially my closest friends) to think less of me or think I excuse racism in anyway because I do not. I am planning on talking to her about it in the morning and I’ll figure out where to go from her reaction. Although my friends have said that it doesn’t matter what she says it won’t change how they feel about her. Is it okay for me to forgive her? Should I try to talk to my friends more about it? Should I cut her off after tomorrow? plz help!
TLDR: My friend said something that is absolutely not correct and my friends are urging me to cut her off, but I still care for her and it’s been complicated by the fact she had a crush on me.