u/Confident-Ratio-2322

AITA Won’t Change My Last name + Arguments Over Kid Last Names

I (32f) and my fiance (34m) got engaged in October. It had been a discussion for years that I didn’t wanna change my last name when married, and I wanted to double barrel my kids last names. I have always felt I am me and he is him, we get married and had kids which were a mixture of us.

It was an issue until on vacation he made comments that he disagreed with my beliefs and would call off the wedding if I didn’t change my mind.

I guess I am just a bit of the belief that I do not need to change my name. I have a family x10 more involved than his, I love my name, and call me a bit of a feminist but I don’t think I’m a guys property. I have never wavered in my thoughts and comments around this topic and now he has these big feelings?

AITA? Why am I expected to confirm because of societal norms?

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u/Confident-Ratio-2322 — 6 days ago