M24 F24 what is the normal amount of time to spend together?
asking for myself (F30) and partner M29 who enjoy spending time seperately, we love each other, but want to ensure we can live long lives of that while also having hobbies and friends which is very importnant to us. sometimes catch the odd comment from a family member about how we dont spend enough time together - but i consider this a strength of the relationship.
compare this to my younger brother M24 and his partner F24 who i havent seen independently since they started dating. yes they are self-proclaimed introverts, but it seems that he has given up independent hobbies altogether and any friends she has, he shares. he also has converted to using 'we' in response to almost all questions i ask him directly. every phone call has her in the room (which he doesnt share unless it comes up). unpopularly, i have asked to see just my brother since i dont feel 100% comfortable with his partner F24, though i like her, but just would like some private time once in a while. im worried that they are developing too codependently, especially as young people with short dating histories. obviously not a lot i can do, but looking to hear some feedback on (1) what i can do if anything and (2) if its normal and (3) how couples find their happy medium for time spent together