u/Conscious-Maybe-3851

this is a throwaway account

Men, Do you think you can be close friends with a guy or girl or involve in a romantic relationship with someone with a disorder or psychiatric history? Or would you prefer to steer clear instantly? What would you do if you found out someone is struggling but they appear normal?

I'm a 19 F psychology student with a disorder myself in my 1st year and got a CGPA of 9.43 last sem (I'll mention why my CGPA is relevant)

All along my life the closest thing to a romantic encounter was when a friend liked me in 8th grade (I snitched and told my mom, who told his mom, who told our tuition teacher) well then he went on to badmouth me forever after that. SO basically NOTHING.

I have unstable moods some days heavenly and some just torturous. I was a total introvert till college until my therapist forced me to socialize and MAKE FRIENDS and I'm really happy about that because It's a new dimension for me, I have nobody close though everyone askes me for help all the the time and I'm glad to do it mostly because they ARENT COMPETITON and that's basically my SOCIAL LIFE

I'm extremely good at pretending to be normal but inside I struggle with my probelm and NOT A SOUL except my sister and parents knows about it. It's a secret and I want NO ONE'S SYMPATHY so practically I do appear normal.

I change into a new person everyday, they might pretend they know me but I dont even know MYSELF because of the instability, I dyed my hair red for example and then got a haircut and bought cat eye glasses and now look like a total IDOT I WANT MY OLD HAIR AND GALSSES BACK but I can't. AND TOMORROW I'll love this new look.

>Personally I'd avoid anyone with a mental health problem because that's scary as hell (I know how hypocratic that sounds both as a psychology student and patient)

What do the men think? Would you choose to be in the life of someone with a mental health probelm?

NEED SOMETHING TO WORK- I'm 20 and In my 1st year of college, I study consistently and score really well in my mid semester exams but start loosing consistency after that and have exams now :( ? (read main body)

What do Indian men in their 20s think of women or males around them -who have an ongoing or previous clinical mental health issue (formally diagnosed and medicated)? Does it really matter?