u/Conscious-Okra7216

For the last 3 years I have been interested in music production, I saved up money for a year to purchase a used device to make music and it recently stopped working with my setup (still not sure why). So I sold it and did not have enough money to pick up another. My mom suggested that I get another hobby and we could "re visit" music production. So I picked up drawing. Now while I enjoy drawing, I would really like to pick up music production. So I ask if she could purchase me a hardware sampler music production unit. She said that I could work in the yard for it, I asked her how long it would take and she responded with 35 hours. The machine is 250 dollars, and 35 hours seems a bit extreme, especially when this year alone she has spent at least 500 dollars on her own hobbies this year. She recently told me, about 2 weeks ago, that I was not doing enough hobbies, she knows I enjoy music production and sampling, and that I find using software hard and not as fun. I really don't understand why she wont spend any money on my hobbies but expects me to want to do 35 hours of work (which would take my whole summer, she only does about an hour a day) to do something that furthers my skills and enjoyment of life.

Any advice will be taken.

I understand from the title a lot of you may be confused on what I mean by "simp". Well this kid specifically, lets call him John, is treating girls better than his own friends, and not just in a "respectful" way. One time, one of my friend's was talking with a girl, the girl said "shut up gay bitch" in a very joking manner. Now as my friend is friend's with this girl, he responded back with "shut up bitch, if anyone is gay, its you", keep in mind, the girl clearly took no offense to this, she was laughing. Then John, who heard the entire conversation, decided to put my friend in a choke hold for a good 20 seconds. His reason for this, "he was disrespecting women", keep in mind, he was not part of this conversation, in fact, he was not even with the friend group that the girl was in. Now, I feel like there is a difference between being nice and defending a girl who did not want to be defended. He also does literally anything a girl asks him to, to boys he is very defiant, he wont do anything he's asked to do by his own friends, but the second a girl asks him to move, or go through the lunch line to get them an extra lunch, he jumps to help. Keep in mind, many of these girls don't really talk to him that much, and when they do, he never says any of the things he says to any of his "guy" friends. As someone who's friend group is 50/50, boys and girls, I treat everyone the same. So it kind of strikes a nerve that he acts like an absolute jerk to anyone who "disrespects" women, even if they don't actually "disrespect" anyone.

TLDR: Kid at my school treats girls a lot better than boys ,none of them like him, he put my friend in a chokehold for "disrespecting" women, when no disrespect took place.

Edit: He is also the type of person to blame everything he has on his adhd, or other "Dissabilities" that he self diagnosed.