Is my mother a narcissist?
When I was 22 I got pregnant, once my daughter was born i developed severe PPD. It was so bad I literally didn’t think I was going to make it. During the whole ordeal my mom would make it worse and not acknowledge it. She’d leave me alone with my daughter when I was begging for help and refused to get me medication help. It got to the point where I was hospitalized two times. The second one was pretty bad. I finally recovered. Once I recovered and was on medication ironically that’s when my mother decided to step it. She then gave me an ultimatum and said you need to give me full custody of your daughter or you’re out of my house with your daughter on the street. I didn’t have much leverage I was scared so I obviously gave her custody. I then received a settlement for 200 thousand dollars in which I helped her by giving her 30k and she bought a new car. By this time I started dating someone else and we partied a lot had fun with the money but I was living with my mom. Kinda getting into trouble but no drugs, never stole or anything crazy. Once she ran out of money she basically kicked me to the curb went and moved with my grandmother and her husband (not my actual grandfather) who on multiple occasions my grandmother has told me her husband stares at me sexually. So I was homeless because I couldn’t live with them and my partner at the times mother didn’t like me so I couldn’t live with him. Eventually my mom met me move in i got a job. I started working and got pregnant with my partner at the time. That caused him to step up and be a man and we got an apartment together. I still stayed in communication with my daughter and there was some problems where the father of my kid and I would fight. And I’d have to go back with my mom but finally made it work because I was pregnant. I gave birth to my son and again I had PPD really bad this time worse. My mom refused to help me I’d cut myself in front of my mom and she would say snap out of it. She would make a big fuss about helping. Then again I started taking meds got better. Around that time I started to have problems with the father of my son. And my mom got involved and said come live with us. So that’s what I did because my baby’s father was just acting a mess. When I moved in with my mom her mom (my grandma) and my grandmas husband. I started working as an exotic dancer due to constant pressure on my grandmas husband end because he didn’t want me there. (Because my grandmother told me she caught him at 3:am looking at pictures of me) so eventually my mother found out where I was working and got CPS involved all three ganged up on my grandma my step grandfather and mother. Next thing you know I wake up one morning and CPS is serving me with an order to leave and they removed my son and gave my son to my mom. I was out on the street. It’s been 4 years and I’m finally doing something about it before I didn’t because my mom was always telling me she’ll get everyone against me and she did. So that I don’t get rights over my daughter my son after a year was handed over to his dad and I see him all the time. But my daughter is still in my moms care and my mom used her to manipulate me I won’t hear from my daughter in months when my mom is mad. My daughter can’t be alone with me because my mom says she doesn’t feel my daughter would be safe. One thing that is starting to concern me is my daughter is starting to develop anxiety at the same age I did. Because my grandmas husband would abuse me mentally and physically sometimes I wonder is he doing the same to her? But it’s so hard to do anything when your fighting against your own family. I don’t do drugs I don’t drink I don’t steal hell I don’t even take stuff when I’m anxious. And this battle feels so tough but I know I need to do it before my daughter comes out worse… Any advice?