u/Conscious_Profile_27

Honestly just a stupid vent but meeting girls as a bi woman is always like you're feeling on the edge. Like my city has some queer spaces but I feel weird being the only person of colour there so I don't go. I'm not a fan of dating apps, but it feels like the only no risk way to see options for same-sex flings or dates. Even then, I have been preyed on by some men for being bisexual, like they thought I'd be down for a threesome JUST because I'm bi. Or whenever I get asked out by a girl I legit back out cuz I'm like, what if she's looking for a third for her boyfriend.

It's gotten to a point where if I'm seeing a guy, I've stopped telling him I'm bi. It doesn't help that I look a bit alternative with my styling choices, so apparently to some people I look "fun" whatever that means. Don't even get me started on how I've been fetishized for my ethnicity, or infantilized because I'm short.

I'm not an accessory or trophy, I just want to be treated like a human and not some commodity.

It's the same recycled question or topic every other day when it comes to this.

"How do I get into a relationship?"

You shouldn't seek a relationship if you DON'T feel whole with yourself ie you think a relationship will fix your life. No you're not going to be perfect and no human ever is, but build something that's meaningful for you first. Regulate yourself better. Find hobbies and routines that YOU enjoy and that enrich you, there WILL be something for you to do.

You getting no bitches (gender neutral) has 30% to do with your looks and 70% with the way you carry yourself. No it doesn't mean act like an egotistical douche (again gender neutral).

Also you're not entitled to anything just because you're a nice person.

I've recently started learning more about the Abrahamic faiths, especially the historical and theological progression of Judaism, Christianity, and Islam.

While reading about Prophet Ibrahim (Abraham), I came across the story of Ibrahim being commanded to sacrifice his son, and how God ultimately stopped him and provided an animal sacrifice instead.

From what I understand, Muslims commemorate this through Eid al-Adha, where animals are sacrificed in remembrance of Ibrahim’s willingness to submit to God’s command.

I’m Sikh, so some of these concepts are unfamiliar to me, although there are also some similarities between our traditions, such as belief in one transcendent Creator and rejection of idol worship.

What I’m struggling to understand is the theological meaning behind animal sacrifice in Islam. From an outsider’s perspective, it feels difficult for me to separate it from practices that might be seen as ritualistic or paganistic. I mean this respectfully and genuinely. I’m trying to understand the Islamic perspective better, not criticize it.

In Sikhi, animal sacrifice in the name of God is forbidden, and Sikhs are traditionally not permitted to consume ritually slaughtered meat. Jhatka is generally the accepted method instead. Because of that background, this topic feels very foreign to me.

So I would really appreciate if Muslims here could explain the spiritual meaning of Qurbani and Eid al-Adha, why animal sacrifice is not considered shirk or paganistic in Islam, and what lessons Muslims are meant to take from it beyond the act itself.

Please let’s keep the discussion respectful and in good faith. We are all beloved creations of God, and I’m asking here to learn and understand better.

I have seen so many comments in some recent posts hating on those 2 (and the poster was defending them HARD)

Well, the last time I saw one of Sangtar's videos was years ago. As for Ikky, I know he produces songs for some big name artists we listen to that's it.

Can someone please explain the full tea, as in, why are they both so disliked? What Sangtar allegations?

Saw that post about homophobia in our community. Here's the truth. Honestly it's not limited to just queer people, but let's just use it for the sake of explanation. 

Punjabi culture tends to treat anything that isn't a "social norm" or openly discussed in quite a hostile manner.

They unfortunately think sexual orientation is tied fully to identity. For example, many don't think it's possible for a gay man to be masculine. If I had to choose 3 things to identify with, it would be Sikh, Punjabi and a woman. Being queer doesn't automatically make it someone's entire personality.

Why? Lack of education about these things, and because the community is already hostile, not many people are willing to correct themselves even after learning better.

I don't even think bisexual or female oriented Punjabi women are considered a possibility by some people lol. Or we're just fetishized and treated as kinky just because the thought of 2 girls kissing turns some weirdos on. (lmao, as if two girls would ever want to sleep with YOU ew)

Secondly, there ARE closeted people. Many are aware and choose to engage in heterosexual relationships to protect their image, while others feel it but, due to internalized homophobia, refuse to accept it.

Anyways, I don't really care. I love being Punjabi, I love my culture, and I love the people, but let's not act like a lot of Punjabis aren't some of the shittiest people on this planet. Fake, judgmental, backwards ass hypocrites. Fuck you fuck you fuck you fuck uuuuuu. "Rules for thee but not for me" ass people. Please mere imaginary lun te vajjo. 

Posts only consist of:

- Can't find gf, either a complete incel or some poor guy genuinely venting -> comments fighting cos apparently the reason is because all Punjabi girls are gold digging lazy insensible hoe bags (also don't forget there's someone saying marry a gori)
- Girl complains about lack of personality in brown guys --> comments fighting cos apparently the reason is because all Punjabi girls are gold digging lazy insensible hoe bags
- Random girl we've never heard of posted, no caption, titled Thoughts on (insert generic name) and its guys being horny in the comments ew
- Nina fucking Gidda man WHO CARES
- Occasional normal that only gets like two comments