Why do people who check out emotionally, stay ?
For context my ex(26m) and I (25f) broke up for the first and last time after 6 years together. He already found someone else within a month of our breakup and they’re already saying “I love you” on social media (I shouldn’t have checked I know). I left him but didn’t feel like the dumper, felt like I was forced because I wasn’t getting any love from him since last year June and just decided to leave. He admitted he fell out of love a while ago.
Now I’m dealing with grieving the fact that he fell out of love, him being extremely heartless 3 weeks into our breakup (saying he hates me despite supporting him) and now him moving on IMMEDIATELY.
This new girl seems so in love with him and it hurts so much. I know he’s going to love hard like he did at the beginning with me until he stopped one day.
My question is: why do you all stay in relationships once you’ve checked out ? Why drag your partner along and make them seem crazy when they question you about it ? Feels like I’ve wasted 6 years of my life. Precious time I could have used to heal and possibly find my lifetime partner, now I am crying while he doesn’t give one damn about me. How do you all move on so quick and turn the switch off just like that ?
What does he tell me ? “You need to move on, time will heal, you will find someone better” all while he knew he had someone new already, that’s why he was so comfortable saying that when two weeks prior he broke down to me of how much pain he was in.
It’s week 6 and I haven’t reached out to him in two weeks because I respect that he is now in a relationship. But damn it truly hurts when you’ve built your life around someone and they chose not to chose you anymore.