u/Consistent_Ideal7586

I’ve posted on here a couple of times. I (F26) broke up with my boyfriend (M 25) due to not getting the way I wanted and the lack of change. We dated for 7 years and it’s been 2 months since the break up. I’ve always wanted to be treated like a princes from my boyfriend and I wanted that treatment from HIM but he was unable to give it to me.

We also broke up due to me finding screenshots of women he knew of their instagrams. Their bodies, behind, chest and said this is normal guy behavior and this how men “pleasure themselves” but he knew these girls! They are people from college and high school. He had these photos organized in folders with their initials?? So weird. I looked his phone clearly, I was heartbroken and this was my last straw. I felt like he didn’t fight for me to stay and really didn’t apologize as he felt that this was normal.

I know. I know I should move on and think he’s disgusting and I do. But I am SO sad still 2 months after breaking up with THINKING he would still fight for me. I get I broke up with him but I felt I had no choice as I also wasn’t getting what I wanted from the relationship for awhile but I love/d him so much I would stay through anything. Even if we got back together it wouldn’t be the same. I miss him though, a lot. I’m in Europe right now and all I want to do is text him things about my trip, I think about our memories, I check my phone constantly to see if he texted still. I look out our pictures, everything. It feels unbearable and I feel like he’s all good. I was his first love and I always thought that those are the worst to get over. I CANNOT imagine him doing anything with anyone or being with anyone that SICKENS me.
I graduate from my masters program next week, he was with me through all of it. I’ll probably post it on socials in hopes he’ll see and reach out and congratulate me, but I won’t count on it.

I feel crazy. I feel so sad he hasn’t reached out to me. I broke no contact two weeks after the break up to check in and he said he was surprised to hear from me due to me deciding to end things but I wanted to see how he was doing. He was confused and said “do you want to talk more frequently” and that he was “open to that” but that felt like falling into old patterns and the only type of conversation I’d have is to talk about the photos and us. I don’t know what our future holds together, but I miss him terribly everyday he’s on my mind. Do you think I should reach out at some point? Please help guys. Please.

Hi everyone. I’ve posted my situation on here a couple of times and I would just appreciate getting more opinions on this as this is something. I just simply can’t get over and hurts me every day. I also know he uses Reddit so if he ever saw this, he would know. I (F 26) broke up with my boyfriend (M 25) of 7 years back in March. Things were good, but they definitely could’ve been better. We did have a great love, but I felt that during the relationship I asked for the bare minimum many times and always wanted him to be the Prince charming that I always dreamed of getting. He was never that, and he was incapable of change. I was contemplating on breaking up with him for years and I was always too scared to. Something that did happen though, that made me finalize my decision on breaking up with him.

We went out for dinner in March and had some drinks. We came back to my place, drank some more, and he ended up staying the night. He fell asleep first and I was still very awake and I decided to go through his phone. I’m not sure what possessed me to do this as I felt awful doing it, but what I saw made me not regret my decision. I saw an app called photo vault on his phone and I assumed that it was maybe because he had things at me which I consented to him to have, but I was wrong. I also saw that there were screenshots of other women he knew from college and high schools bodies on his phone. This man would go on their Instagram screenshot their bodies (chest, behind) and put them in inappropriately labeled folders on his phone, this was obviously for his own pleasure . I was so upset. I woke him up and completely kicked him out of my house. When we talked about it, he said that this is normal men behavior, and he was so angry with me for going through his phone. When he “apologized”, he would say “I am not sorry for this is how I would release myself, but I guess I’m sorry for having pictures of others as it’s inappropriate”. I broke up with him.

It’s been almost 2 months since our break up and about six weeks of no contact. I am at home finishing my degree while he has moved to a new city with his roommates from college has a great new job and is living the good life. I think this every day and I feel like it’s just another day to him and he no longer thinks about me. I’m the one that broke no contact a few weeks back just to check in and see if he was OK not that he would check in and see if I was OK because you know he is the one that hurt me. I still check my phone in hopes that he will reach out to me and apologize but that just might not happen. I can’t help but wonder if he misses me or thinks of me everyday like I miss him and think of him. I know he is a weirdo and I shouldn’t even be missing him, but we did have a lot of great times together.

I understand this is super long, but if people can just share their honest opinions about the situation, please do. I know I shouldn’t count on a text and I’m not but I’m wondering if there will ever be a day that he just feels bad and misses me like I do with him. I wonder if he will text me for my graduation this month. I was his first love, his first everything. We are not getting back together, but I hope we can talk about things someday.

I(F25) broke up with my (M25) boyfriend of 7 years and I’m devastated. When he was asleep, I went through his phone and saw an app called Photo Vault with SCREENSHOTS of women’s bodies he went to high school and college with of their instagrams. I saw zoomed in pictures of their bodies (chest and behind) with different folders and their were labeled so inappropriately and I’m so sad. I don’t know what possessed me to go through his phone but I wanted to end the relationship for quite sometime due to him not being the man I’ve always wanted to be and I got bare minimum treatment for years. But I feel like I’m the only one hurt here. When confronting him, all he cared about was me going through his phone (he was so pissed about this) and how isn’t sorry for how he “releases himself” like huh what about me? So I broke up with him.. it’s been almost 2 months already. I broke NC like 5 weeks ago to check in and basically asked if I reached out to be in contact with him again which was NOPE. He said he was “not great but not terrible” But funny how you broke my heart and I haven’t gotten a single check in, phone call, nothing. Broke up with him at a great time for him I guess. Moved to a new city, got a great job, lives with his college bodies and following new girls on instagram. I’m sitting here crying everyday, finishing my degree at home, studying, and I feel like I’m not a damn thought in his mind. How is it so easy for him? In this case and I know I shouldn’t care but it’s still early in the break up, do we think he’ll come back and apologize to me? A deep one? An I miss you text ? Anything ? I’m not taking him back, he’s not my future, but it would be nice to hear this sucks for him and he feels bad. I may not ever get that but anyone’s opinion would be helpful. I wish I never dated him as long as I have. I miss him and I feel stupid for even saying that. 26 and single. Starting over is daunting.