If you don't want the long version here's the short version. My parents are in an abusive marriage to each other and the abuse goes both ways. I (17m) didn't always live with them but when I called the police on them I did. It was me, my sister (14f) and my brother (11m). Two years ago things got really out of hand with them one night and I had to call the police. My parents were arrested and my siblings and I were taken by CPS. My sister hates me for it and my brother feels like I ruined everything. My sister has always demanded an apology from me but I don't feel bad. My brother wants to hear one too. They had a way different relationship with my parents than me and they still don't feel our parents were wrong.
For those who want the long version. My parents lost custody of me when I was 1 because of their volatile relationship. I lived with my grandparents until I was 7. Then my parents took the steps to win custody back. My siblings were both born by then and my parents never lost custody of them. I struggled to settle in with them and things were still toxic between them so I ran away a few times and eventually a 50-50 split was ordered until I could settle better with my parents. This continued until I was 10 and reluctantly said I wouldn't run away anymore because I was told there was no future where my grandparents would have custody of me again. This was said by the therapist I was CPS ordered to see.
My siblings and I never really clicked. We had missed out on the early years together and they loved our parents despite their issues. I never did. I deeply resent them for everything they put me through. The house was toxic and harmful and my grandparents tried to get me out of there but they were told to stay back multiple times.
The night I called the cops things were so much more intense and volatile between them. Our neighbors had tried to complain twice and I think they were probably going to call themselves. But I wanted out. I did not want to be there anymore so I called the cops and they arrested my parents who were in the middle of things when they pulled up. CPS removed the three of us and placed us in the care of our grandparents.
My sister was really angry at me for making the call and she tried to attack me several times. My brother was upset too but not violently. It was decided it would be better for my siblings to live with our aunt and for me to stay with my grandparents. We're all in therapy and we've met up (not in therapy) 3 times in the last two years. We don't talk to each other unless my sister is yelling. She demanded an apology and said I owe them so much for taking mom and dad away and ruining their family.
I don't regret what I did and I don't feel bad so I have never apologized. Our aunt is starting to side with them on me owing them some apology and that has been awkward to navigate because we were good before. But right now she's annoyed I won't apologize and try to make things work with my siblings.
I have accepted we're just never going to have a good relationship and that our differences are just too much. We don't even really feel like siblings. They feel like siblings to each other but they were always raised together. It's different with me and we all feel it. My aunt thinks I should be willing to put the work in and be willing to apologize if it means we have a chance to better the relationship some day.
I really don't want to apologize. But AITAH for not and AITAH for calling the police instead of leaving it for someone else to do? I know it's so likely the neighbors would have eventually. But just in case people think it was selfish on my part I wanted to ask about that too.