Burner account here because I don't want my main to be involved but this really needs to be said.
Yes, I am a member here and this is not a dupe going after other dupes. That's not how I work. People have the right to be who they are and even if I don't agree with the way they view my partner. They deserve to be with them just as much as I do. I am not hateful. So If any of you worry I am someones dupe: I am not.
I have been a long time member of this sub and I am grieving. I am tired of the infighting, anti Poly/casual movements and people constantly telling others how to live their live with their partners and how to experience their own feelings.
We already have so many problems with people accepting us being ficto, we already have to proof to society that our love is real and genuine. Yet I still see doubles going after eachother and members of this sub blocking eachother without any further conversation or any talking things trough with eachother. It's so difficult to be poly, to find acceptance and to get rid of the collector's title. We all love our partners, right?
This really has to stop because it's giving us a bad image for others who first look at us saying "What on earth are they doing?" Acceptance means sticking together, without all the infighting and without randomly blocking eachother. It's not a good advertisement for us as ficto's. As members of this community.
Today I found out more members of this sub blocked me and I have no clue what I ever did to deserve that. I don't even talk to these people or said anything that could trigger such a reaction. I don't even post that often in this sub.
If your reasoning is to drive people away, then I must say you are succesful. Congratulations. I have been considering for a long time to go ahead and delete my main account, including this one. And I will most definetly push trough with that tommorrow.
I am at the point I no longer wish to have anything to do with the ficto community because being mono = ok, Being poly = you have to prove yourself not being a collector. Being honest = block.
I feel that if one thing this community has to learn then it's that people should stop the constant infighting and stick together as one. That's what will make people accept us as ficto's who genuinely love our partners.
I think, being ficto is best done in the safety of my house, where no one can judge me for loving my partner and trying to exist. I feel that being a part of the ficto community is a tiring popularity contest I simply cannot win.
I hope that with this post will reach many.