AITAH for not letting my wife check my phone
Okay so let me preface by saying I allow my wife access to my phone whenever it’s needed I don’t have anything to hide but she always snatches it outta my hand while I’m busy or trying to leave for work. I 21M have two jobs service member by day and bouncer by night. My wife is an entertainer (dancer). At first I thought all would be fine until my wife started taking a lack of interest towards me and relying on validation from other people (says im biased) but when I do my bouncer gig it’s solely a job. Now being in the military I work around a lot of women therefore by proxy am friends with a lot of women but never has gone any further than a few drinks with the whole group or at the house with my wife so never isolated. But I am questioned on my loyalty constantly. The reason I’m making this post is cause as I was getting ready for work she snatched my phone and starting looking. I told her I needed it for time and music to which for her translates to I’m hiding something. She has now said she wants a divorce and I’m a lying cheating asshole. So I guess I’m asking is it her own insecurities something else or am I the asshole??