r/AITH

I've lived in the same apartment for about two years, and my next-door neighbor is friendly enough. We aren't friends, but we chat if we run into each other.

Over the last few months, they've started knocking on my door to borrow random stuff. It started with things like a phone charger or a screwdriver. No big deal.

Then it became laundry detergent, eggs, trash bags, batteries, tape, paper towels... basically whenever they were out of something, they'd knock on my door first.

The weird part is they almost always brought the item back if it wasn't something disposable, so it's not like they were stealing from me. It just got to the point where I'd hear a knock and immediately wonder what they needed this time.

Last weekend they knocked while I was home watching TV. I looked through the peephole, saw it was them, and just... didn't answer. I honestly didn't feel like having another "Can I borrow..." conversation.

About twenty minutes later I got a text from them saying, "I know you're home, your TV is pretty loud."

I felt awkward, so I admitted later that I'd seen them but just wanted a quiet evening to myself.

Now they've barely spoken to me, and another neighbor joked that I could've just taken thirty seconds to help someone out.

I don't think I did anything wrong, but I also wonder if I handled it badly. AITH?

My boyfriend has this oversized sectional couch that him and his ex got. Nobody can sit on the couch as it is broken in three different spots. I want to get rid of the couch as I got chairs and a table to redo the living room and he loves them. I have asked him a few times to get rid of the couch or dispose of it or get it out of the house in some type of manner. It is now been over two months and nothing has happened. I am at the point of where I’m ready to just physically do it myself I don’t know if he’s having a mental block or something else but I’m wondering if AITAH for wanting to take this upon myself after two months of him not doing anything to make this change in the house that we are slowly beginning to make ours.. I would love to just bring it to the garbage dump, but it is too expensive for me at the moment to do that so I’m wondering also if maybe I should just put an ad out to see if somebody would want it as it could be broken down for good firewood or if somebody had the time they could actually fix the frame very easily. The couch for our space is just way too big and I’m ready to get rid of it and every other piece of his ex in the house.

Hello,

This is my first time doing this kind of thing, but I wanna know if AITAH or not.

So my husband and I have been together for 5 years, married for one, and lived together for 4 years. We have integrated the 50/50 rule with money, (he has gotten better with paying for more as he 'was' the breadwinner). But when it comes to the house hold chores I 'was' doing the majority of them, cooking, cleaning the like. I also have a pre teen from a previous relationship and he has been a good father figure.
My husband did lose his job about 5 months ago. It was due to both negligence and point out. I have a job that allows me to stay at home. But my job is usually not very busy. I mean to say is that I have about 2-5 hours of actual work. Its computer related so its not very intensive.

His family (mainly MIL) has always said that a house hold should always split the chores, so not one person feels like they are doing more. And if there is one partner now working they should be doing more. I also believe in the 60/40 rule. So I don't usually complain when I pick up the majority of the chores. But lately it feels like I have been doing around the same amount if not more. I wouldn't complain but I suggested that he maybe would start cooking breakfast to help me out a bit more, to make it fair. We also have an agreement that I do cook and he cleans the kitchen. Because I would usually cook at least breakfast & dinner.

I don't ever want him to feel like he's doing to much, I know losing his job is stressful, and he has had a few interviews but he hasn't liked what he was offered in terms with money and the job its self. So most days we stay home and he plays on his computer. All is fine with that. We are home bodies. I do not expect him to be running around the house like a chicken with his head cut off trying to keep the place clean. But he does seem to be getting up set with me when I ask him to help out a bit more not just with breakfast but other things and he looks at me when I have finished my job early (or not sometimes) and asked me why I don't do said chore. Same thing goes for outside work, if I don't start it or go out and help he has such a foul attitude. I would then tell him to take a break or wait till I clock out to help, but that seems to anger him more. So today I was done early with my job and I started to play on my computer. I ask him about breakfast and he looks over and says why I can't do it as I seem not to have anything else to do. I told him that it would be fair. So this whole morning he has been in a mood. AITAH? Should I quit expecting him to do breakfast?

When I was at university I had a close friendship group with the people I lived with. There were 4 guys and two girls.

We all planned to go on holiday together to celebrate finishing but due to other circumstances it didn’t end up happening.

We're all from different cities and have different schedules and commitments so it has been impossible to all get together.

One of the guys made a group chat and mentioned us all going on the holiday and said we should do it this summer. We all agreed and started looking at hotels, hostels, airbnbs etc.

I told my gf what we were planning and she asked if she was invited. I said on since it was just the friendship group and no one is bringing their partners.

She said she found it weird I was going on holiday without her and that she thinks she should be invited. I said no again and explained again what the trip was for.

She repeated that she thinks she should be coming or that I shouldn't be going but I just told her there's nothing wrong with going on holiday without your partner.

She said I was being disrespectful towards her by going on holiday with other women.

AITAH for refusing to invite my girlfriend on holiday?

I (M/F, 23) live alone in a small apartment. Recently, my cousin (26) asked if they could stay with me for “a few days” because they were between places. I agreed because I wanted to help out family.

Those few days turned into almost two weeks, and there was no real effort from them to find another place or give me a clear timeline. They also started being pretty messy and not respecting my space, which made me uncomfortable in my own home.

When I finally told them they needed to leave by the end of the week, they got upset and said I was kicking them out with nowhere to go and embarrassing them in front of the family.

Now some relatives are saying I should’ve been more patient since they’re going through a tough time, but I feel like I was taken advantage of.

So AITH for telling my cousin they can’t stay anymore?

My child A (8) is long time friends with L (7). Things with L's mom haven't been easy, but I maintain a relationship for my child's sake. I ask for playdates, I drop my kid off, I take their kid, it's all fair and mutual, but no big friendship.

L is also ... not easy, but A and L are BFFs.

There was a fair this weekend. My kid wanted to either go there or play with another kid, we live fairly rural and wanted to drive to the nearest town to do some shopping, I figured arranging a playdate is the way to go, that way everybody's happy.

I asked L's mom. she agreed to take my kid. then my kid wanted to come shopping with us. another text to L's mom, sorry, kid changed their mind, hope you didn't tell your kid yet.

she texted back, no problem, if we changed our minds again, we could still drop our kid off. I hearted the message but didn't text anything back.

then kid didn't want to go - AGAIN. I was annoyed. I decided to not bother L's mom again and asked another mom, mom to M and J. she agreed to take my kid.

three reasons: 1) this became a whole back and forth with L's mom and I didn't want to bother AGAIN. 2) M and J are super sweet and easy going, as is the mom, I was happier with them being together after a rough morning. 3) they hadn't seen each other in a while, so a playdate was long overdue.

I didn't tell L's mom any of that, I didn't feel the need to text her, she's not my mom, she doesn't have to OK my scheduling.

We dropped our kid off at M and J's mom, went to do some shopping, came back. M and J's mom had taken them all to the fair (she had asked in advance, we were ok with that). we parked our car, went there as well.

there's this kiddie area they set up with kids' music and face painting and arts and craft. they were there. when we walked up, we saw L, L's mom and they did not look happy.

Conversation something along those lines:

L's mom: A is here after all. with M and J. my L is distraught, close to tears.

me: yeah, sorry, it was a whole back and forth this morning.

L's mom: they just abandoned my L. Left her standing.

me: they're 5 and 6 and probably stayed close to their mother. i told A to stay close as well.

L's mom: well, I'm telling you what it felt like from L's perspective. so A didn't want to come with us to the fair, but with M and J?

me to L: it was our decision, A didn't know. we decided she should go to M and J. But now we're all here, so you guys can all play.

L's mom: no, we're leaving.

me: ok.

The next morning, my kid got three voice texts from L.

L: I hate you.

L: it's either them or me. you're so mean.

L: they try to take you away from me. you made me cry yesterday.

and same unintelligible ramblings.

honestly, we were shocked. this is bordering on classic text book abuser behavior. L can express their feelings, that they felt left out or hurt, but to make my kid choose? to tell them, they hate them? to make my kid feel responsible for the other kid's feelings? red flag, red flag, red flag.

we saved the voice texts, sent them to L's dad, simply wrote: we'd wanna know too if our kid sent something like this. this is not okay. listen for yourself.

now, when i relay the story, people tell me I was the AH for going with someone else, for not telling them. I don't think I owed them that level of information, the back and forth, anything.

AITAH?

I (29M) was flying home last month, window seat, aisle and middle across from me. I'd booked this seat three months ago specifically because I get antsy on planes and wanted to see the sky.

About ten minutes before boarding finished, a woman asked if I'd swap so she could sit with her husband and toddler, who were scattered in a middle seat two rows back and an aisle seat further up. She was holding the baby and looked frazzled. The seat she wanted me to take was a middle seat in the very back row, next to the bathrooms.

I said I was sorry, but I'd rather keep my seat since I chose it on purpose and get uncomfortable in middle seats for long flights (it was a 5-hour flight). She got visibly annoyed and said "it's just a few hours, can't you be flexible for a family?" I offered to ask the flight attendant if there was any other solution, but I didn't want to just hand over my seat.

The flight attendant ended up finding another aisle passenger willing to switch with the husband instead, so it worked out for them without me moving. But the woman glared at me the rest of boarding, and her husband made a comment loud enough for me to hear about "some people only caring about themselves."

My sister thinks I should have just sucked it up and swapped since it was "only a few hours" and family separations are stressful. I feel like I paid for a specific seat for a reason and shouldn't be guilted into giving it up, especially for a downgrade to a middle seat by the bathroom.

AITA?

I (M, 22) recently had my birthday and decided not to invite my older brother (26), and now my family is split on whether I was wrong for doing that.

For context, my brother and I used to be close, but over the past year things have gotten tense. He has a habit of making jokes at my expense in front of others, and I’ve told him multiple times that it bothers me. He usually just laughs it off or says I’m “too sensitive.”

A couple months ago, he embarrassed me pretty badly at a family gathering by bringing up something personal in front of everyone. I was really upset and left early.

After that, I decided I didn’t want any drama on my birthday, so I didn’t invite him. When he found out, he got angry and said I was being childish and dividing the family over a joke.

Now my parents think I should apologize and “not exclude family,” but I feel like I just wanted a peaceful day without feeling uncomfortable.

So AITH for not inviting my brother?

A few months ago my roommates started having people over almost every weekend. At first I didn't mind, but then random guests started staying late, eating my food, and even asking me for the Wi-Fi password. I asked everyone several times to give me a heads-up before having groups over, but nothing changed. Since the internet account is in my name, I changed the password and only gave it to the people who actually live there. Now my roommates say I'm controlling because their guests can't use the internet. I think it's reasonable since I'm paying the bill.

I’m 25M from the UK. This happened back at uni but it’s come up again cos one of our mates is getting married.
I was with my ex “Megan” for nearly 2 years. My best mate then was “Callum”. We lived together in second year and I honestly saw him like a brother.
In final year Megan started acting wierd. Going out loads, being secretive with her phone, coming home late etc. One night I saw her outside a bar with this guy from her course. They were stood proper close and he had his arm round her waist. When she saw me she looked shocked.
She told me I was being paranoid and he was just a friend. Callum backed her up and said he’d seen them and nothing happened. I believed him because why would my best mate lie?
Turns out she’d been sleeping with him for weeks. And Callum knew. He said later he “didnt want to get involved” and thought it was better to stay quiet untill exams were done.
But he didn’t just stay quiet, he lied to my face and made me feel like I was going crazy.
I cut him off after that. No big argument, just stopped speaking to him.
Now our uni mate is getting married and Callum is going stag do. I said I’ll go wedding and be civil, but I’m not going away for a full weekend pretending were mates.
The lads are saying it was years ago and I’m letting an old relationship ruin the group.
I don’t think I am. Megan cheated, but Callum betrayed me too.
AITAH for still not wanting anything to do with him?

I'm 25F and my boyfriend is 27M. We've been together (on and off) for about three years.
Throughout our relationship, we've had the same recurring issues. I caught him lying multiple times, hiding conversations, talking to random women online, and even talking to his ex once. Every time I confronted him, he would tell me I was insecure, an overthinker, or that I needed therapy instead of addressing why I had lost trust.
Last December, after another argument, he broke up with me and told me I was "a burden." I was devastated and begged him not to leave. Our flights were booked for new year the very next day as well on 31st and yet he said he don't want to meet.
At the end of February, he came back. He apologized, said he had realized how wrong he had been, promised he would change, rebuild my trust, and even said he wanted to marry me. I didn't immediately take him back. I spent about two months thinking before giving him another chance.
Since we live in different states, we met again in May. Because trust had been broken, I wanted to see whether his actions would match his words. I asked him to do one simple thing: follow me on social media.
To me, it wasn't about gaining a follower. It was about whether he would make even a small effort to rebuild trust after everything that had happened.
It's now July, and he still refuses. He says he doesn't like showing that side of his life publicly. The part that confuses me is that he's an influencer who posts almost everything else—his purchases, daily life, achievements, and photos with his parents. He also follows and interacts with many other women online.
Whenever I bring this up, he still tells me I'm insecure and overthinking things.
For context, I've always been loyal. During these three years, I never entertained other men, even though I had opportunities to. I genuinely wanted to build a future with him.
Outside of this relationship, I have a full-time job, I'm the eldest daughter in my family, and I handle a lot of responsibilities. I'm not trying to control him or his career. I just wanted honesty, transparency, and consistency from someone who says he wants to marry me.
At this point, I don't know if I'm expecting too much or if I'm ignoring a pattern of broken promises.
AITAH for expecting his actions to match his words after giving him another chance, or am I being unreasonable?

I (21F) recently accompanied my aunt to my younger cousin's (Class 3) parent-teacher meeting.

During the meeting, the class teacher told all the parents that every student had to use notebooks sold through the school and that all books must be covered using a specific type of cover available only from the school's affiliated stationery shop.

I asked whether regular good-quality notebooks and normal brown covers from local shops would be acceptable since they were much cheaper. The teacher immediately said no and insisted that everyone had to buy the school's approved supplies.

The issue is that those notebooks cost almost 2–3 times more than similar ones outside. My aunt can somehow manage it, but I know several families in that class are already stretching their budget just to pay the school fees. One parent even mentioned that they were worried about managing all these extra expenses.

I politely asked the teacher why the school couldn't simply specify the notebook size and number of pages instead of forcing everyone to buy from one particular place. She got defensive and said, "If parents have a problem with the rules, maybe they should consider a different school."

That really didn't sit right with me. I replied that schools should focus on education, not on making parents spend more when there was no educational reason for it. I stayed calm the entire time, but a few other parents quietly agreed with me.

Later, my aunt told me that the teacher complained I was being disrespectful and interfering in school matters. Some relatives also think I should have stayed quiet because they don't want my cousin to face any problems at school.

Now I'm wondering if I crossed a line by speaking up.

AITA?

I (45F) need guidance on how to be better at compromising without losing my sanity. I don’t expect people to do things my way—I just want to be left to do the things I’ve clearly said I’ll handle. I’ve been told to “just accept help as it is given,” and I find that hard. I’m starting to think the common denominator might be me, so I’m asking for perspective and practical advice.

Backstory: My in-laws moved in with us. MIL is 62, FIL is 68. Two weeks in, FIL cornered me and said we need to keep MIL busy and hand over the house duties—cooking, cleaning, etc. I said no: that’s unfair, she’s not our maid, and I like to manage my own home. He insisted that she’s the only one not working and this would be her “contribution.” I reluctantly agreed to a partial handover: MIL could help with some cooking and some cleaning, but everyone stays responsible for their own living areas and their own laundry.

Before they arrived, I did most of the cooking. I meal-planned, defrosted in the morning, and we ate early. My husband (45M, married 10 years) would cook with me. When MIL took meals, we started eating late because the meat was still frozen and she’d say she didn’t know what we wanted or how we liked it.

We tried meal kits. All she had to do was match the color bag to the recipe. That was “too hard,” so my husband started helping her as he got home before me. Then the kits were “too weird,” and FIL wouldn’t eat half of it. New plan: we made a weekly meal list on the fridge and shopped accordingly. MIL didn’t participate and the same cycle continued. We set up an Alexa for the grocery list and asked her to add items as they ran out—or just write it on the fridge list. That also didn’t happen. Now my husband basically cooks most nights. I love that he’s good in the kitchen, but what was supposed to “keep her busy” turned into him taking over the thing I used to do and enjoy. It feels like I’m the demanding one and he’s scrambling to avoid conflict, instead of just letting me do it.

Cleaning is similar. MIL will sit all day, then get upset if I start cleaning, claiming she already did it, when it’s obvious it wasn’t, or telling me to leave it for tomorrow (and then it doesn’t get done). I heard “sit down and relax” so many times I wanted to scream. Sitting still does not relax me. If I kept cleaning, her feelings got hurt. She’s nice to me only when FIL is around.

Laundry is my breaking point. I explicitly said, “Please leave my washing; I’ll do it.” She kept folding my clothes anyway and going into our bedroom to put them away. Two issues: 1) I’m particular about folding—consistency matters to me. If it’s not done the same way, I’ll refold. 2) Boundaries: we have a laundry room. Please don’t go into our bedroom. I asked politely multiple times. Eventually I said, in front of both men: “Mom, thank you for folding again, but I’ve asked you to leave my washing because I have to refold everything. Please just leave it.” She sulked. My husband keeps saying, “People are just trying to help. You can’t always have things your way. You’re being unreasonable.”

For context: as a rule I don’t want guests to help clean up when they visit. I care about my home, not how others run theirs. I have different cloths/brushes for specific tasks. I like my kitchen sponge/scrubber system a certain way. I make the bed every morning, kitchen’s reset at night, towels aligned, cushions fluffed. Yes, I’m particular. Friends and my husband make fun of me for it. I don’t expect others to match me—I just want to do my own tasks my way when I’ve said I’ll handle them.

I know this might sound a bit OCD-adjacent (not self-diagnosing), but I don’t think I’m extreme. I’m asking: How do I become more acceptable to those around me without abandoning what keeps me calm and functional? Where is the compromise when “help” feels intrusive, inconsistent, or creates more work? I get to feel like I am to much and ungrateful. Especially when my husband minimizes my requests?

AITH for wanting things my way?

I 24F work in electronics for a big box store in the southern US. Today I was at the service desk when two customers approached me. They were older African American ladies. One yells “Hey!” I tell her to give me one moment as I put down the items in my hand to walk over and ask “How can I help you?” She says J(front end manager) said for me to load 15 50lbs bags of mulch into her car. I thought this odd because J isn’t my manager and He knows I’m disabled. I asked if she would mind waiting for someone stronger and more capable than me. She said “No, Now you done already made me wait one time. You’re not making me wait again. J said for you to take these to my car. Not a cart pusher. Not a cashier. You and you are going to do it.” I calmly explained that I didn’t think I would be able to do it. I tried to say “I don’t think I’m physically capable of doing this I’m sorry” She yelled “J said for you to do it so it’s no question of “Are you able”or “Are you capable” about it. If he said for you to do it you must be able to do it. Clearly he thinks you capable of doing it so get to doing it.” I don’t like conflict and I just wanted this to be over so I said I would try my best to do it. I followed them out pushing the cart in front of me. I couldn’t keep up which pissed her off even more especially when they had to wait a moment for me to make it to their car. This cart weighed at least 500lbs. A random man in the parking lot saw me and ran over. He didn’t ask if he could help me he just immediately told me “absolutely not” and started to load the mulch for the ladies. I was grateful to have his help so I didn’t protest. I thanked him. The woman told me that it was very unprofessional of me to allow a customer to do my job for me. I apologized. She then tells me that she used to work for the company and asks me my name, department and my win number. I gave her my name and department. I said I wasn’t comfortable sharing my win number and I asked her why she needed this information. She told me it was none of my business and if she asked I had to provide it to her. I told her again that my name was OP and I work in electronics but that I wouldn’t be giving her my win. I asked her if I had done something that she felt she needed to report. She said “(Company)is all about customer service I used to work here I know how it go. You wasn’t willing to provide customer service to me. You made a customer do your job. That is disgraceful. You are disgraceful. I have never in my life had somebody so unwilling to help a customer. You oughta be ashamed of yourself” I just said “Ma’am I’m sorry I didn’t think I’d be able to lift that much weight. I am disabled. I was willing to try to do it anyways had that gentleman not intervened. I apologize for making you feel that way.” Then she asked me if I had documentation of my disability. I told her that I did and she said “Well we’ll see about that tomorrow when I talk to (name of my HR rep)”
I went to J and asked if he had really said for me to do all that and he said “Absolutely not OP why would I make you do that? You’re disabled. I told her that I was going to do it personally. She told me she’d found someone to do it and I assumed she meant she’d found someone capable of doing the job. I had no idea she meant you. You need to pick up the phone and call me next time. Especially when someone uses my name like that. I am not gonna tolerate abuse of any associates in this store.” The worst part of this is that he told me he’s had experiences with that lady before and that he believes the reason she picked me out is because I am the only caucasian person that was working. I hadn’t thought of that before at all. Others coworkers said that lady has a pattern of mistreating white workers. I feel terrible that my coworkers would even think that. I feel terrible that this happened. I feel terrible for not calling J when I should have. Not to mention the fact I’m gonna get reported over it. AITAH?

(32f) here. My daughter Mia is 14, and my husband Dean's son Jaxon from his ex is 11. Blended family, mostly fine, except for the never-ending fairness Olympics. Dean doesn't let Jaxon have a phone yet, but Mia's had one since she was 12, so now Jaxon melts down every time she uses it and Dean keeps asking me to make Mia hand hers over for balance. I've said no every time she's 14, he's 11, that's not favoritism, that's just a two year age gap. Same story with curfew: Mia can be out till 9 with friends, Jaxon has to be in bed by 7:30, and instead of Dean just holding that line with his own son, he wants me to send Mia to her room too so Jaxon doesn't feel singled out. I HAVE compromised on things Mia used to skip family dinners to eat in her room, and once Jaxon moved in full time I ended that because it wasn't fair to him. But I'm not restructuring my daughter's whole life because an 11 year old throws a fit.

This past weekend blew everything up. Dean's parents rented a lake house for a big family reunion, and Saturday night everyone wanted a bonfire on the dock. Jaxon didn't want to wear his life vest near the water and started screaming that Mia should have to wear one too, even though she was just sitting by the fire on her phone. I told him no, calmly, and kept scrolling. Dean lost it, marched over, and instead of dealing with his own son, he snatched Mia's phone out of her hand and hurled it into the lake in front of his ENTIRE extended family, yelling there, now it's fair, nobody gets a phone! Mia burst into tears, his mom gasped, and I just grabbed my daughter and walked her back to the cabin while thirty relatives stood there in silence.

Dean followed us in about ten minutes later, furious that I humiliated him by leaving, insisting none of this would happen if I'd meet him halfway for once instead of favoring Mia and causing resentment between the kids. I told him a $400 phone at the bottom of a lake isn't fair, it's a tantrum with better aim, and that Jaxon's meltdowns are his to parent, not something I fix by punishing my kid. His mom already texted me saying I provoked him. AITA?

Well today I said f it and finally have had enough of them using my email for stuff, ive now started changing the addresses to all their orders because I have their order numbers.

I (26F) moved into my house last year with my partner and our young son.
Last summer we hired a gardener to remove a huge row of overgrown bushes at the back of our garden. Before doing it, we checked the property boundaries and confirmed the bushes were on our side of the fence. They were completely overgrown and the roots were ruining our lawn, so we had them removed.
In November, my neighbour’s garage, which is behind where the bushes were, was broken into by a group of teenage boys. I heard the commotion and went straight over to make sure they were okay.
The next day my neighbour thanked me for checking on them. He mentioned he thought the burglars might have come through our garden now the bushes were gone, but he had no proof. That was the end of the conversation, and everything seemed fine.
Fast forward to May. My partner was getting home from work when our neighbour came over furious. He claimed the bushes we’d removed were actually his and said it was our fault his garage was broken into. He demanded we replace the bushes and put up a fence because his insurance apparently won’t let him keep his dirt bikes in the garage anymore.
My issue is:
We checked the boundaries and the bushes were on our land.
If he believed they were his, why didn’t he say anything when they were removed nearly a year earlier?
If they were his, he’d never maintained them anyway. They were completely wild.
I don’t believe bushes behind his garage would’ve stopped determined burglars.
We told him we can’t afford a new fence. I offered to split the cost 50/50 if he wanted one that badly, but he refused and insists it’s entirely our responsibility.
Since then he’s become really hostile. He glares at us whenever we see him. When new neighbours moved in opposite us, he immediately went over and I overheard him pointing at our house saying things about “the English lot across the road.” He also complained that we’re loud. My son is autistic, so he vocal stims and sometimes has meltdowns, which made those comments hurt even more.
Now for the petty bit…
Parking on our street is awful. My son also has mobility issues, so being able to park close to home is important.
Whenever I leave in my car, either my neighbour or his wife comes outside and moves one of their cars to block the space. They regularly park across two spaces, then move back when his wife gets home so she can park outside. Between them they have four cars and a van and somehow always manage to keep the spaces outside their house.
Meanwhile, I’m left parking on the next street and carrying my disabled son home.
Now I feel uncomfortable even leaving the house because of the dirty looks and the tension.
AITA for refusing to replace the bushes or pay for a fence, or is my neighbour just looking for someone to blame?

I’ve just had a big birthday for me and my girlfriend and we’re on holiday during my birthday. We go on holiday each year anyway, this place was just a bit further away than we usually go. 

We both paid 50% of the cost of the trip so it’s not like it’s a birthday present or anything. When it came to my actual birthday my girlfriend mentioned she hadn’t actually gotten me anything since we’re on holiday so that’s for my birthday. I pointed out the trip isn’t a birthday present since I had paid for myself. She just shrugged and said she’d still paid half of the cost so this was my birthday present. 

I again just pointed out we go on holiday each year so it’s a bit shitty she hadn’t bothered to actually get me anything but she just called me ungrateful since we had the holiday. 

AITA for being disappointed my girlfriend got me nothing for my birthday?

I (M, 22) have a friend (23) who I’ve known for years. We’ve always been close, but lately I feel like the dynamic has become pretty one-sided.

Over the past few months, they’ve been asking me for favors pretty regularly money, rides, help with things, last-minute plans, etc. I didn’t mind at first, but it started becoming frequent and they rarely return the favor or even say thanks properly.

Recently, they asked me to lend them a large amount of money for “just a few days,” and I finally said no. I told them I feel like I’m being taken for granted and need some space from constantly helping out. They got upset and said I’m being fake and that “friends don’t keep score.”

Now some of our mutual friends are saying I should’ve just helped them since it wasn’t “that big of a deal,” but I feel like it’s more about the pattern than the one request.

So AITH for finally refusing?