u/Sharpyshork

I (28F) have been dating Tyler (30M) for three years. We were supposed to go on a five day trip to the coast next month for our anniversary, something we've been planning for the past six months. I arranged the cabin, pre paid for couples spa day and made a non refundable reservation for a private dinner totaling $1,400, split evenly.

Tyler recently informed me that his ex college girlfriend is getting married the same weekend as our trip and he has to go because they are friends and he is part of the wedding party as a groomsman. The kicker? I find out that he has known about this for at least two weeks. Apparently, he forgot to mention it and thought I would understand that he had a prior commitment to his friend. That's all nice and dandy because you promised her, but you made plans with me months ago.

I told him that I am fine with him going to the wedding, but he shouldn't expect me to eat his half of the bill since he's going to miss the whole trip. I have already paid the deposits and cannot cancel since they are non refundable, and he can do what he pleases. Tyler was livid at me for mentioning money at all, and that as a couple it was his duty to help pay for it even when he is not coming.

To which I said that if he is choosing his ex girlfriend's wedding over something that we planned as a couple, then he can pay for his half regardless of his attendance because the bills are pre paid anyway. Tyler took it as guilt tripping and said that real couples don't keep track of things like this. His sister, whom I get along with well, texted me that I should just let it go and weddings mean more than a couple's trip.

AITAH here?

Two years ago, my older brother (34M) got kicked out of his apartment and asked if he could keep his belongings in my garage for just a few weeks until he sorts things out and gets another place. I agreed, obviously because that is what families do.

However, those few weeks became two years. He managed to get a new place very fast, but never picked anything up. Every single time I tried bringing up this issue he said "Yeah, I will grab everything this weekend" and didn't. In the meantime, my garage was blocked by his old couch, three boxes of who knows what and his broken treadmill which I can't even leave a bike near.

Finally, last month I decided to stop being nice about it and told him that either he would take his stuff out by the end of the month or start paying me $50 monthly for using the storage place in my garage. He got mad saying that I was "nickel and diming" my own brother and that I have never asked anything from him before in my life, therefore making it feel like punishment.

I explained to him that I don't need any money from him, I simply can't stand being used as a free storage place and having him make empty promises for two years now. My parents think that I am being petty and should just let it go because it's just a garage. My wife says I have been patient enough already.

So, AITA for pricing him out after two years of promises?