AITA for being upset that my husband kept a secret “backup relationship”?
I recently found out that my husband has been talking to the same woman online for almost two years. They never met in person, but they talked regularly and apparently had a very close relationship.
What shocked me was finding out that he had told her that if our marriage ever ended, he would want to be with her.
When I confronted him, he said it was never meant to become a real relationship. He described her as someone he could "fall back on" if things between us didn't work out.
He insists he never cheated because he never met her, never slept with her, and never planned to leave me for her while our marriage was going well.
I feel differently. To me, knowing he had another person waiting in the background makes me question how committed he actually was to our marriage.
He says I'm making something harmless into a much bigger issue because nothing physical happened.
AITA for considering this a form of cheating?