TL;DR: Sister is in a relationship with an older Auto guy in the street, talked to her about it but no use. I think she will take bad decisions in her life and suffer. Seeking suggestions.
I'm 23, a govt employee with 30,000/- in hand salary. We are a family of 5. Father is auto driver and mom is a daily wager. My sister is in 4th year bsc nursing and my youngest bro is in nit dharwad.
My sister had got trapped in a love affair, yeah pure love, when she was +1 then 16 with an auto driver of our gully then aged 25 in the gully. We found it 3 years back and I talked with her calmly asking to tell me what happened but she didnot reply anything and told her about the love, attraction and most cases of love affairs how they are these days. Although my parents knew about this my father just threatened my sister that he will step on her neck if the rumours are to be true and just focus on studying and have a career while mom cried and blackmailed that we all will die if something brings bad name to the family. I know both of them are not going to happen. I tried to talk with my sister but she didnot want to talk about all those things although I assured that it will be between us.
I thought she forgot all those afford things and back on studies focusing on her life but recently I found that she was chatting with that guy in an intimate manner in my father's mobile, she doesn't have a phone. She repeated the same response and I'm not in the mood to tell anyone in our family and get her think about where this is gonna keep her in future long term. For all the hardwork My parents did for giving private education since childhood , I want them to be happy and I want my sister to be happy too. But I know that guy, he is in 30s now and a drinker with some history of girls and prostitutes. I'm beginning to think to go for extremes these days either let parents know that they are thinking about elopement(as two of the girls in the neighbourhood did where their parents accepted them after 2 years) or letting the guy have peace in hell or let her elope and forget her to face karma for her actions. The first option would make a lot of drama and be a opportunity for all the relatives to point out parents about upbringing of a girl giving freedom where they wanted her to marry by 15-16 years old.
What would you do in this situation? Please help me out with suggestions.