[30s F/M] Are My Feelings Broken?
Me, [30F] and “Jake” [30M] have been dating for 2 months now. We’ve known each other for over 7 years and it was finally just time for us to start this adventure together. He’s funny, a gentleman — pays for our dates, brings me flowers, and is taking things slowly. It’s a slow burn but both of us want that.
I’ve been single for 10+ years. Jake is almost always in a relationship. I know he’s liked me since we’ve met but due to just life things, it never worked out. After he and I started talking a bit more, and shared our feelings freely, he said he’s finally “got the girl”.
He’s incredibly sweet, we have a lot in common and a lot not, but he’s literally doing EVERYTHING right.
But my feelings towards him just aren’t what I want, or what I thought they would be. He’s so experienced in dating and I’m simply not. I don’t feel those butterflies like I want to. I did in the beginning but it feels like something is literally stopping me. To note, I don’t feel love bombed. We do text or talk on the phone every day, and see each other once or twice a week.
He’s green flags all around. He’s choosing me and he wants to be careful and take care of what we have. He’s genuinely a good guy and not sure why I’m having issues wanting to go further.
Any advice would be appreciated.